Safe, Sexy Adult Spanking Tips for Two
You may enjoy all the numerous aspects of spanking and kinky punishment to the fullest if you consider safety both before and during your consensual spanking sessions.
Do you feel kinky? You adore a good paddling, don't you?
You're not by yourself. When done as part of a consensual, sensuous session between two fun-loving adults, spanking—or more particularly, adult spanking—is a delightful pastime. Additionally, a 2017 Lovehoney poll revealed that 66% of women and 75% of men had attempted spanking. Why not? In addition to receiving a great deal of physical stimulation, the spanker and spankee experience a wide range of pleasant feelings and experiences.
Consent and safety are crucial for all BDSM activity. Although the focus is always on sharing control, adventure, and enjoyment, partners engaging in BDSM activities like spanking frequently exhibit extremely high levels of sensitivity.
Therefore, how can you ensure everyone is secure while enjoying a good spanking? I'll demonstrate how to safely and effectively spank your spouse.
Why are adults into spanking? What makes it erotic?
Generally speaking, delivering and getting spanking can cause our bodies to release dopamine, adrenaline, and oxytocin, all of which can improve our mood. According to a study, experiencing mild to severe pain in a sexual setting might cause ecstasy or a trance-like state that alters one's thoughts.
Perhaps the most obvious of the benefits mentioned by spanking lovers is pleasure, but they also mention stress alleviation and the thrill that comes from possessing or giving up power. Additionally, spanking can have certain psychological and emotional benefits. For this reason, a practice known as "spanking therapy" is used in this setting.
Adult Spanking Safety Tips
Though it's always vital to make sure it's safe, spanking can be a lot of fun! While experimenting with spanking, use these suggestions to keep both you and your partner safe and content.
Know the Risks
There are a few different perspectives on BDSM, or harsh sexy play. The "risk-aware consensual kink" (RACK) school of thinking acknowledges that BDSM activities are risky by nature and that each individual must determine how much risk they can tolerate. Then there is the "safe, sane, and consensual (SSC)" method, where participants only do things that they (and their partners) feel are "safe" in advance. Regardless of the process, it is always crucial that play participants understand the risks and decide if and how to take them before participating in any BDSM.
Play Sober
Substances that affect our minds can interfere with how much force we use and the pain we perceive. Because of this, it is risky for either partner to be drunk during spanking.
Be Clear on Consent
As with anything sexual, spanking necessitates informed, willing, and continuous permission. This implies that you should usually discuss it before attempting it, and never pressure a partner to do something or think it is acceptable.
Discuss your desires with one another and follow up to make sure you are still in agreement. However, be sure to discuss what you don't want. Before you begin spanking, make sure you both understand each other's limits and boundaries.
Keep Communication Going
A safeword is among the best communication tools to utilize during spanking, as well as during any BDSM and power exchange session. The dominating partner and the one exhibiting submission are protected if you establish one before you begin. During sex or BDSM role play, this should be a word you wouldn't typically hear or say. Words like "no" and "stop" are banned, but you can use anything. The standard traffic light system is "green" for "go," "yellow" for "slow down," and "red" for "stop."
Even if it is never used, having a safe word enables the individual to get "punishment" to communicate their dissatisfaction with the process to the person in charge. This guarantees that play is always, always agreeable. The foundation of all BDSM is consent, along with enjoyment, of course!
It is necessary to use a non-vocal safeword if you prefer to utilize mouth gags or sensory deprivation hoods during spanking and BDSM roleplay. This can be set up by giving the submissive partner a bell to ring or by talking about and deciding on finger signals.
Mind Your Aim
When spanking them, knowing where to hit someone and when to stop is crucial. A few broad guidelines are as follows:
- The butt and thighs, which are meatier and more fleshy, are safer.
- Avoid the lower back and abdomen since you want to avoid key organs.
- The spine, hips, and tailbone are no-go areas to prevent damage.
- Skip the head, feet, calves, and ears as well.
Beyond that, you may provide a more complete and pleasurable spanking if you know how to spread your swats. Observe these rules:
- The fullest area of the buttocks should receive 70–80% of the spanking.
- Give the sensitive sit regions directly beneath the tush 20–30% of your spanks.
- Spend the final 10–20% of your spanking session giving your upper thighs softer swats.
Erotic Spanking Implements
The second item to consider is: How do you spank your partner? There are numerous options, and the experience differs based on your selection.
When selecting your tool, you should consider whether you want to give (or receive) a long-range spanking, which involves the recipient bending over a bed, bench, or other piece of furniture, or a short-range spanking, which consists of the recipient being over the spanker's knee, for example. You'll also need to think about the type of markings you want left after the spanking and how much sting you want it to cause. Although it may seem like a lot to consider, doing so might help you choose the best tool for your needs. Let's discuss a few possibilities.
One of the following options may be used for short-range spanking:
Your hand: A practical and easily accessible choice. Hand-delivered spankings are a little kinder and less painful than other methods. Light splotches are the outcome.
Strap: An alternative that is more painful than a hand spanking but still somewhat harsh. Bright patches are the outcome.
Paddle: The strongest short-range choice. Paddles have the power to bite hard and leave patterned splotches all over the recipient's butt.
You have even more possibilities, and the intensity increases for long-range spankings:
Flogger: A flogger, which usually has several ends dangling from a single handle, is powerful and leaves many thin welts behind.
Riding crop: Similar in agony to a flogger, a riding crop administers a more focused spanking. A collection of red, splotchy welts will be left on the receiver.
Cane: Canes offer a more intense experience than other options and have less give than any of the options we have covered thus far. Red, elevated welts are the result of cane spankings.
Tawse: Although the sensation is very different, using a tawse is similar to using a cane in terms of pain. Thick red welts will be left behind by this weapon, which resembles a wide strap split down the center.
Whip: Of all the choices discussed here, whipping is difficult for many people because of its severe sting. Thin crimson welts are left behind by whips.
It's also important to remember that you have other possibilities! You can utilize some items you already have around the house when searching for spanking tools. Remember that the material of your spanking tool might also have an impact.
Adult Spanking How To
You're prepared for a spanking, then! How would you like to proceed? Now let's discuss positioning. Before you start, consider the position of the person you are going to spank. Are they going to be at ease? Are they always able to breathe gently and freely? Do you both feel secure? Here are a few standard techniques for giving a sound, safe spanking.
Adult Spanking Positions
Over the Knee (OTK)
Make sure you're sitting comfortably to keep both feet flat on the ground if you're giving the spanking. This will assist you in carrying the recipient's weight across your knees in an even distribution. It also implies that you won't overtax your knees or calf muscles. Don't be scared to pause the practice and think about a different position if you start to feel stiff or sore.
Because people who are spanked sometimes hold their breath, it is essential for both the spanker and the intended target to avoid knees pushing into ribs during the spanking. This could result in unintended injuries or breathing difficulties. Both partners typically need to practice a bit to get the ideal balance and become at ease in this position.
You will almost certainly be on a bed at some time if you are in a love relationship or are engaging in BDSM as a member of a romantically committed couple. Thankfully, it's safe and, well, comfy to spank on a large, cozy bed. The big mattress area offers additional bondage possibilities in addition to providing a solid base for the person being spanked, whether they are flat on their stomach or all fours. Try classic bondage cuffs or restraints beneath the bed.
Over Household Furniture
The temptation to spank someone over the dining room table or kitchen counter might be powerful. But in the heat of the moment, consider your options before pushing your intended against something with sharp edges and spiky corners. Are you going to regret it? Does your spanking partner have anything in front of them that could hurt them?
While spontaneous fancies might be enjoyable, it is ideal and safest to prepare your destination in advance.
Using Specialized Spanking Furniture
Yes, there is sex furniture explicitly made for spanking, and it is the best option if you have the funds to buy it and the space to keep it. If not, you can utilize some sex swings and store them under the bed to have a valuable piece of furniture that is safe for spanking and supportive.
For most of us, having big, spanking furniture throughout the house is not feasible. However, take advantage of the opportunity to try out a spanking table or bench in a fetish club. You won't be sorry!
Taking Care During and After a Spanking
Although spanking is a physical exercise, there are other dangers involved. Putting yourself out there for a good spanking takes both guts and trust. It leaves you exposed, particularly when you venture into "subspace," the mental condition attained during periods of extreme surrender. Ensuring the recipient's enjoyment and emotional/psychological comfort is crucial for the person administering the spanking. This goes beyond bruising. Spend much time connecting, resting, and attending to each other's needs after you've finished playing. This is frequently called "aftercare." It could be sharing food, hugging, or discussing what you did. Do whatever it is that makes you both feel cared for and connected.
Now, who's ready for an adult spanking?
You may enjoy all the numerous aspects of spanking and kinky punishment to the fullest if you consider safety both before and during your consensual spanking sessions. Come on, let's play together differently. Doing it correctly will allow you to experience the satisfaction of knowing you are well-spanked, protected, and cared for even at your most vulnerable moments.
