Exploring the World of Dildos: Shapes, Sizes, and Materials

What is a dildo?

Dildos are sex toys that are intended to be penetrated and may produce an experience similar to intercourse. (However, not everyone will consider dildo play in those terms.) We shall discuss the various forms and sizes of dildos in more detail below. Please continue reading to learn more about this well-liked toy category and consider whether you or a companion would like to investigate it. These are excellent sex toys for both ladies and men!

The difference between a dildo and a vibrator

Put, dildos (for the most part) do not vibrate, whereas vibrators do. This guideline does not always apply because a vibrator can be placed inside a dildo that has a hollow core. Insertable vibrators can function similarly to a dildo when their power is switched off.

Even though they can work similarly, vibrators and dildos are not interchangeable since some vibrators are not built in a way that makes them safe or practical for penetration. When used as intended, dildos and vibrators stimulate in different ways. In addition to stimulating specific nerve endings, vibration is particularly effective on and around the clitoris and penis (particularly the head), the anus, the nipples, and other body areas that are particularly sensitive to touch. Indeed, specific nerves are susceptible to vibration! Additionally, the nerves that transport the sensations of pressure, motion, and fullness—all of which dildos excel at—are primarily stimulated during vaginal or anal penetration.

The different functions of a dildo & how they can affect stimulation 

Building on the information about nerves above, this clarifies why dildos are particularly helpful for insertion play. An implantable vibration will arouse those nerves, although external vibration will likely have the most sexual stimulation effect.

Particularly in the vagina, fewer nerves react to vibration, which can be confusing to a beginner vibe user who believes that using a sex toy should effectively simulate sexual activity. There are plenty of other techniques to take pleasure in stimulation! If a toy is shaped appropriately to allow for safe interior play, this does not imply that a vibe user should not use it for that purpose. However, it does mean that someone who enjoys penetration in particular would not mind if their toy vibrates while they're doing it!

Many users will have particular preferences about size, shape, and other effects, although dildos can stimulate regardless of size, curvature, or realistic appearance. These may be mainly about stimulating in a particular way, but they may also be related to aesthetic choices or sexual fantasy. A slim dildo won't activate stretch receptors as much as a girthier one, and a straight dildo won't stimulate the prostate or g-spot as much as a curved one. However, as everyone has various tastes, it's essential to consider what kind of stimulation would be most appropriate for you.

Vibrating dildos 

As previously stated, if a dildo is made to be equipped with a vibrator, it can vibrate. Some of these components are permanent, while others can be removed. You can use the vibrating feature whenever you want or only occasionally add it. One vibrating dildo probably won't accomplish both at once because many individuals enjoy using a vibrating toy on their clitoris or penis while using a dildo vaginally or anally—a fantastic technique to create a blended orgasm. Thus, some toy buyers decide to get a vibrator and a dildo.

If you want to add more feeling of this type, you may also place a vibrating cock ring on a dildo that isn't vibration-equipped.

Thrusting dildos

The thruster is a unique type of insertable toy that, once turned on, moves by itself to thrust in and out. These can frequently be employed at varying speeds, which alters the experience's degree of intensity. Make sure you like the size and shape of the thrusting dildo you choose because these will play a significant role in the pleasure of using it. You will likely need to stabilize the toy with one hand even after guiding it into your preferred body region. More about thrusting toys can be found here!

G-spot dildos

G-spot dildos are often curved and are designed to stimulate the G-spot, also called the paraurethral sponge, the prostate femina, or the Gräfenberg Spot (yeah, it is a very fancy phrase, but we did not originate it!). This makes it possible to aim the toy at the so-called "spot" on the front vaginal wall. Once you've identified the area that is particularly sensitive to pressure, you may adjust the amount of pressure you like, add movement, and occasionally even experience an orgasm in this manner, thanks to the curve. (Some do, while others don't.) A dildo may work better as a G-spot toy if it is stiffer.

Not even inside the vagina, the g-spot is glandular tissue wrapped around the urethra and is easiest to stimulate through the front vaginal wall. It is not a spot at all. If you are new to searching for the G-spot, consider its location to be approximately on the other side of the clitoris. Since many people need to apply significant pressure to excite it, you will most likely need lubricant to increase your comfort. Warm up first because this kind of pressure may not seem erotic—or even pleasurable-to you if you're not aroused. Additionally, you can still love using a g-spot dildo just as much as you would a straighter-shaped one, whether you don't feel anything at all or find what you do feel particularly enjoyable.

Why it's essential to consider the material of your dildo.

Most aspects of using your dildo, including how you store it, depend on the material it is constructed of. In terms of safety and convenience of cleaning, it's particularly crucial because toys made of porous materials are never thoroughly cleaned after usage, and using a condom with them is far safer. (If you are new to cleaning toys or choosing toys with an eye toward cleanliness, look at this post.)

Although many users have strong preferences about the firmness of the toy, the material can also change the surface's feel, which can significantly affect how the toy feels to use. This can include its smoothness (or lack thereof), its "natural" feel (if compared to flesh), and the amount of friction you encounter when using it. A friction-y dildo may only feel pleasant to certain people if they're using the proper lubrication with it, and this also depends on how much lube you use. Speaking of lube, the lubricant you can use with a toy may be limited by its substance because some lubricants can potentially harm particular materials.

Silicone - pros & cons 

The most common type of dildo material at Adutoys is silicone, which is also used to make numerous non-rigid dildos or a combination of silicone and other materials. Although silicone can be relatively stiff, it is never as completely indestructible and rigid as dildos made of acrylic plastics like Lucite®, metal, Glass, stone, and wood. There are fans of the texture and how it feels when used for every degree of softness or hardness in the world of dildos, and silicone is highly favored since it is very easy to clean, warms to body temperature when used, and is flexible to varied degrees. If you haven't seen a dildo since you saw a large, "flesh-colored" (whose?) one in a porn shop, you will be enchanted by the variety of stunning hues and imaginative designs silicone dildos can have. It can also be sculpted to look different in a variety of colors.

When choosing a blend (some softer toys designed to feel as close to flesh as possible are more challenging to clean than unblended silicone) and, infamously, when selecting a lubricant, silicone's main drawbacks become apparent. While other forms of lubricants will function fine with silicone toys, silicone lubricant will destroy some of them.

Glass - pros & cons

Glass toys must be constructed from borosilicate or soda lime Glass, which are materials resistant to breaking and insensitive to temperature changes. Glass dildos come in colored or crystal-clear varieties and are quite beautiful. In addition to being smooth and sleek—or else created with textures that appeal to some users more than the slippery-smooth ones—they are genuinely the most adorable residents of Dildo World. Since glass toys are impermeable, cleaning them is a breeze. Glass can be lubricated with any substance.

Additionally, they are rigid, which can be either a benefit or a drawback. Certain users adore the hardness of Glass and other rigid materials. Some people don't like it at all because they think it's too much. There is no way to soften Glass, so experiment with it carefully until you understand how your body reacts. If a glass toy feels too cold to the touch, it can be warmed up in a bowl of warm (not hot) water. If you enjoy thrusting hard and quickly, we wouldn't suggest a rigid toy because anything with some flexibility is safer for that type of play.

Metal - pros and cons

It is also possible to create sleek and attractive toys out of metal, most often stainless steel; many metal dildos resemble sculptures. They are challenging to play with because they are heavier and more substantial than other materials. They are highly valued toys, particularly for forms of penetration play that benefit from pressure, such as G-spot or prostate stimulation. Like Glass, they may be warmed or cooled by submerging in warm or cold water.

The drawbacks of metal and Glass are nearly the same, aside from the apparent distinctions between the two materials: If users dislike a rigid, inflexible toy, they will want to avoid using metal or take their time with it.

Types of dildos

Keep in mind that a dildo may fit into more than one of these groups! Additionally, when you experiment with dildos, you can discover that your favorites consistently or occasionally include some of these traits.

Hard dildos 

We recently talked about hard materials like metal and Glass, but stone, wood, and acrylic dildos are all included in this group. Although silicone is never as rugged as materials like metal, Glass, and others, it is possible to find extremely stiff silicone and entirely rigid materials. Note for safety: strap-on play is not intended for rigid dildos. Select a more flexible material for that purpose because a hard thrust with a hard toy may cause pain or even bruises. Compared to hard silicones, even substantial ones are safer to use.

Ensure your item is sealed with a body-safe sealant if you use a natural material like wood or stone. Wood and certain kinds of stone can become porous without sealer.

Soft dildos

Since some soft blends are incredibly squeezable and wiggly, while substantial silicone can hardly be twisted to a proper angle, the term "soft(er) dildos" describes a wide variety. You may test the density and flexibility of each dildo by taking it out of its box if you can purchase it at Adutoys store. This is a terrific method to make sure you've discovered something you enjoy the feel of. Remember that while most "realistic-feel" blends will be lovely to use while playing, others may be so soft that they are challenging to get into tight body areas. If this is the lube you're using, pick the proper one!

Realistic 

The purpose of realistic dildos is to resemble penises. Depending on their material, they may feel somewhat similar or somewhat different, but their goal is to make the user feel as though they are interacting with a cock. Users who wish to improve their male presentation frequently choose realism.

Some users will eroticize these. There are numerous other styles, including straightforward, smooth ones, to pick from, and for some people, a realistic dildo would conflict with their own gender identity or sexual preferences. Users in the middle of this preference spectrum can choose from realistically shaped dildos in hues that are distinctly non-human or blinged up with confetti.

Non-representational (funky shapes, unusual shapes, shaped to satisfy kinks)

Conversely, the creative or kinky designs might be straight-sided or curving, adorned with texture for a wilder ride, as fantastical as a Pride flag (the colors, not the form), or as sexy as a werewolf appendage. These designs range from human-like, penis-resembling dildos! The latter is probably making a werewolf fanatic extremely happy.

Vibrating 

Since most vibrating dildos focus the vibrations at the toy's base, they provide extra feeling and are ideal for strap-on wearers who want some extra stimulation of their own.

Double-ended

A head is located at either end of most double-ended dildos, which are longer than usual and designed to be used by two individuals simultaneously. These vintage toys have their supporters, but it may take some getting used to. Remember that unless one of them holds the toy and assists in stabilizing and moving it, they are typically too adaptable to delight both partners (or even remain inside them). Try a variety of positions; you're capable!

Strap-on

The dildo alone or the unit consisting of a dildo and a harness can be referred to by this name. To keep the toy steady in the harness, a strap-on dildo needs a base that is both large and flat. Some users find that realistic dildos with balls make this challenging. However, some harnesses work better with these than others, so ask us for advice if that's what you want to strap on. If a couple wants to experiment, strap-ons make excellent sex toys.

Packer dildos (prosthetic dildos worn with a harness or clothing that resembles a jockstrap) might or might not be sufficiently stiff to be used for penetration. These are gender affirming devices that provide someone who wasn't born with a penis a realistic-looking one. Because of this, the person wearing them may consider them to be a sex toy or something else. However, we are proud to carry them because gender affirmation can play a significant role in a person's capacity to enjoy sex.

Suction cup

It may be more challenging to utilize a harness with a dildo with a suction cup at the base, but it's a perfect design for adhering to a hard surface like a cabinet side, a bench, or the shower wall. In addition to providing you with some support for your straddle, this can make for sexy showing off. 

How to use a dildo 

The fundamental method of using a dildo for penetration play is by hand, on oneself or a partner. This can be anal or vaginal (the latter if the dildo has a base to keep it from slipping inside and is anal-safe). If you have several sizes of dildos, you can start with a smaller one if you'd like, then progress to the larger one as you get more aroused and into the experience. Take your time, use lubricant, and discover what you like most.

Using your dildo in a harness for strap-on play is a less conventional method. Make sure the dildo is a suitable size and shape for the partner you plan to use it with, and pick a toy that fits comfortably in the harness you wish to use.

Consent 

You agree to do anything when you consent to it, and we should always get our partner's permission before engaging in any sexual action. If they decide on a portion of a sexual situation, you should learn how to negotiate so that you can both agree. Additionally, you should make sure that you both comprehend what you're going to accomplish and have sufficient knowledge about it to do it safely. When considering consent, make sure enthusiastic consent is on the table because it indicates they want to do the item. We should also add that "not saying no" is not the same as saying "oh hell yes."

Make sure you want to do the item, for that matter. Consent is reciprocal.

When discussing dildos, consent may involve determining the potential size and shape of the object as well as any real sexual activity that may be involved. Other matters may also need to be discussed and negotiated in advance.

Foreplay 

Dildo play typically entails penetration, so be sure to get turned on before the object pushes into you, just like you would when having sex. The insertion action won't feel as pleasant as it could if the excitement is too low. It may feel neutral or even unpleasant. Some people don't enjoy dildo play or intercourse because they aren't turned on enough when penetration begins. Arousal helps your body prepare for penetration by causing blood flow to your pleasure parts, which awakens the nerves that help you process sexual touch as pleasurable. Thus, take your time! Fantasy, sensual media, touch, and other toys like vibrators can all be considered "foreplay" for dildo play. Since penetration isn't the only sex act, we put "foreplay" in quotes. Additionally, you are under no obligation to include it, though you might want to if you have a dildo. However, don't undervalue how significant and enjoyable sex play may be; everything that might turn you on is a type of it.

Texture

Make sure it's comfortable by starting slowly if the toy you've picked is rigid, bumpy, or has more friction than you're used to. Some people get sore from rough or inflexible toys.

Steer clear of breakable, pointy, scratchy, and harsh toys! All of these characteristics have the potential to be harmful, and sex stores typically don't sell such devices. However, an older toy may not be as safe as it once was. If you are the type of person who "runs around the house and finds something to use as a dildo," consider this while evaluating your household items and, if you're into that, make sure they're also anal-safe. Purchase a safe toy instead.

Anal use 

Be certain that it has a base! Make sure you have lubricant on hand! You can engage in erotic play for as long as you wish if you keep safety in mind.

Cleaning

Keep your dildos clean to avoid issues like STI transmission, which can happen if you and your partner share a toy and don't clean it well, especially if one of you has an STI. Body irritation or a change in pH might cause issues even if there isn't an STI present. And simply ew! Don't let them become dirty.

Fortunately, most dildos make this quite simple. You can use soap or toy cleanser, immerse them in water, scrape them with a cloth, or even boil or run your silicone dildo through the top rack of the dishwasher if it doesn't have a battery or a vibe inside.

Rinse your toy thoroughly after cleaning it. Cleaning products on mucosa is about as risky as not washing your toy in the first place!

Sizes of dildos 

Here are some guidelines to assist you in determining whether to play with a toy or what size to get.

Above all, there isn't a single size that everyone agrees with and prefers. Sometimes people have solid reasons to start small, and bigger isn't necessarily better. You react to a toy's size (and other features) uniquely, so don't pass judgment.

Additionally, a lot of people mistake size with length. Many people value length, but girth may be even more significant! You should think about both of these essential facets of your dildo.

Lastly, the size of a toy can be influenced by the material used to make it. This is especially true of stiff materials, which can feel larger than a softer toy of the same size because they lack cushioning or "give."

Small dildos - pros and cons 

Smaller toys may be slimmer and shorter than larger ones. For newcomers, particularly those attempting to get at ease with anal play, these can be excellent. Many penetration fans who have experienced menopause find that they are more at ease with smaller toys due to the changes the vagina undergoes after the body's hormones shift, as they do during "the change." Smaller toys also appeal to chronically tight people, for whom larger toys may cause discomfort.

It's interesting to note that some people find that a short dildo is an excellent length for stimulating the prostate or G-spot.

Depending on your level of flexibility, little dildos may be a little harder to grasp and use; strap-ons, in particular, can make it easier for a shorter dildo to fall out than a longer one. People who are accustomed to larger toys, penises, and multiple-finger penetration may not be the best candidates for little dildos.

Medium dildos - pros and cons 

These are the Goldilocks of dildos, according to some. Once more, the most crucial pleasure factor in these may be size, girth, or both. Compared to small toys, medium-sized toys can trigger more stretch receptors, making us feel satiated without overly demanding. However, some people may still think that they are too big or not big enough.

Large dildos - pros & cons 

Some people adore a larger dildo because it eroticizes the sensation of fullness and is flexible enough to not hurt when penetrated, even with a large toy, thanks to the nerves in the vagina and anus that convey this message. Except for those who think it is, bigger is not better!

However, not all Dildo users are like that. Possible drawbacks: The cervix, which can be sensitive to this (some people like it, while others find it uncomfortable), is more likely to come into touch with longer dildos used vaginally. Girthier ones, particularly for anal, can be excessive. The girthier the toy, whether in front or behind, the more stretch it will need (which some people find uncomfortable) and the more friction it will create. A big, girthy dildo should never be forced, as this could injure someone.

The importance of lube 

The friction of any material used to make a dildo will differ from that of human skin. For comfort and safety, it's always a good idea to use lubrication with your dildos, and it's a requirement when using them anally. That is especially crucial if your dildo is girthy. Select the lubricant that you prefer: Here's more on lubricant, and here's a post about anal lube in particular.

You can lubricate your dildo and go for it, or you can lubricate the body area you want to target, or you can do both. Try a small amount to find your preferred amount of lubrication because too little could still cause uncomfortable friction, and too much could make it difficult to enjoy because it's so slick. When you think you need more lubricant, add more. If the lube is water-based, add a few drops to rehydrate and slick it up.

Don't forget to apply a safe lubricant to your toy! Therefore, don't use silicone lube on most silicone dildos; if you have a rubber toy, don't use oil-based lube.

Key lube takeaways:

• Lubricant lowers friction and injury risk; the larger your toy, the more lubricant you'll need!
• Especially during insertive play, lube feels fantastic and improves arousal during all types of intercourse.