7 Porn Stars Share Their Best Advice for Anal Sex

Anal pleasure is the actual thing, even though porn is over the top.

While porn may be excessive, anal pleasure is authentic.

There is no doubt about the appeal of anal sex, regardless of your feelings toward it. 40% of people have experimented with backdoor play, per a 2023 survey by Bible.com. Compared to vaginal play, which may be quite enjoyable when done correctly, anal sex offers an entirely different sensation. Additionally, people of all genders and sexual orientations can experience the positive effects of anal sex. The P-spot, often known as the prostate spot because of the walnut-sized gland situated in front of the rectum beneath the bladder, is a hotspot for all the positive emotions in cis men.

We're inclined to assume that you're looking for some advice on how to make anal play the most enjoyable experience possible, but since you're here, you presumably already know that.

I spoke with seven porn celebrities to get their professional advice on how to handle anal intercourse. What they shared was as follows:

Do Your Prep Work

Don't worry if your anus isn't flawlessly clean. Maintaining proper cleanliness and experiencing occasional leakage are two very different things.

The anus might be dirty by default because it is also used for defecation. However, there are a few ways to be ready for anal play if you're anxious about creating a mess:

• Do a short fast. To ensure that everything is out, Sara St. Clair suggests avoiding eating for 12 hours before anal intercourse. Just to be sure, she also consumes a lot of coffee. However, people with specific medical issues could not benefit from fasting. You don't have to fast; do what your body needs.
• Douche. Nicole Doshi uses an anal douche rather than an enema to get ready for anal intercourse. After adding lubrication to the douche's tip and filling it with warm water, she carefully inserts it to squeeze the water in. According to Doshi, the trick with this one is holding the water inside you for almost a minute while standing in Dog Style. After that, force the water out. When you observe that the water is clear after repeating a few times, you know you are ready to go.
• Use colored condoms. If at all feasible, St. Clair wears colored condoms if she is not entirely sure she is clean. Because it's colored, it's less noticeable and unsightly, and cleanup is simple.
• Use a sex blanket. Your carpet or bedding may be better protected with the Liberator Fascinator Throw.
• Get wet. You and your partner can continue having sex in the shower if things get messy.

Communicate With Your Partner(s)

Being transparent with your relationship is Dee Siren's top piece of advice. According to her, communication skills are crucial during anal intercourse so that you may both advise one another on what feels good and what might need to be changed.

According to Siren, the provider must go at the receiver's pace and inquire about their partner's feelings at every stage. Having a sense of humor is incredibly beneficial because, like any other kind of sex, part of the fun is being able to laugh at how absurd it is. Furthermore, most people prefer to go slowly and savor the novel sensations.

Consent is Key

If the thought of anal intercourse doesn't make you say "fuck yes," you should probably avoid it, just like anything else in life. Coercion, not consent, is what happens when someone needs to persuade you to do something.

Furthermore, "accidental" anal is unacceptable. Someone is, at best, being a jerk and, at worst, engaging in sexual assault if they "accidentally" slip it in.

Build an Anal Training Kit

Building your anal training equipment is an excellent way to get ready for anal play with persons of varied experience levels, according to mentor, lifestyle dome, and kink practitioner Madam Carmen.

Carmen suggests including a tiny vibrator, pH-friendly body or genital wipes, a variety of anal play toys, medical-grade latex or nitrile gloves, lubricant, and toy cleaner.

Carmen advises that it's crucial to remember the materials these components comprise when assembling your kit. This entails ensuring that everything is safe for the body and being aware of the elements that shouldn't be combined.

Don't Forget the Lube

Inserting a large object, such as a penis or even a finger, into a tiny hole is a common (and very legitimate) concern regarding anal penetration.

The anus is not a self-lubricating opening like the vagina is, so lubricant is needed. Doshi uses Bad Dragon's Cum Lube and Pjur's BACK DOOR Anal Lube, but Siren likes more natural oils, such as coconut oil.

Go Slow

Start small until you're at ease and prepared. Gently stimulate the region around the anus with your tongue or finger. Try easing the tip of a plug or one finger inside when aroused.

You're not prepared if you have to force the muscles to open; they should do it naturally.

Use Your Fingers

According to Madam Carmen, some people may prefer a different form of stimulation or are uncomfortable with penetrative toys. She advises beginning with your hand and fingers.

Even before putting on gloves, you should wash your hands and scrub well under your nails to prevent the spread of bacteria and diseases, she advises. Carmen claims that she likes this since it allows her to feel and maneuver the anal canal more easily. It can occasionally be challenging for the top to fully comprehend the depth of the other person's bodily experiences because of toys.

Take Proper Precautions

The possibility of bacteria moving from the anus to the vagina should worry you if you own a vulva. Change condoms or give your penis or strap-on a thorough cleaning if you are transitioning from the anus to the vagina. The same is true with condoms on sex toys with interchangeable orifices.

Size Matters

Size does matter when it comes to the butt, particularly for novices. Put another way, don't get ahead because you can always go bigger later.

According to Marina Gold, the internal sphincter is incredibly adaptable and extensible. The external sphincter remains the most difficult to open. After all, your ass is a muscle, so as long as you're doing it properly, you can truly push it to its limit without injuring yourself, she explains.

Gold advises purchasing an anal dilator set if you wish to engage in anal intercourse regularly. She claims that they will be pretty beneficial for the training and that you can get them at any sex shop. Additionally, she suggests dilating your ass while engaging in a regular activity, such as reading or watching Netflix. Sometimes dilating will assist you to do so much more rapidly when you and your lover are intimate, even if you are not planning to have anal sex right now.

Gold's counsel? Begin modestly. Start with your finger and become accustomed to the sensation. After that, keep playing with different toys, ranging in size from tiny and thin to as large as you feel comfortable. According to Gold, you'll be alright if you move slowly, change toys gradually, and apply a lot of lubricant.

According to performer Valentina Bellucci, some individuals may not find a human cock that is too thick to be attractive. However, she can work with a long dick. My partner adds, "At least not right away," but I ask her not to go all the way in with a long dick. In these situations, an ohnut bump on a penis or dildo is useful. The flexible, stackable rings lessen the depth of penetration.

Experiment With Positions

Catherine Knight recommends lying on your back with your legs up on a sofa while your sex partner is kneeling for those who are new to the idea of anal sex. Another option is to elevate your hips with a piece of sex furniture, such as the Liberator Axis, as in the Hamstring Stretch Position.

According to Knight, begin by very lightly inserting the cock or dildo tip and holding it there until the receiver feels ready to proceed, cautiously advancing deeper. Stop, take a little break, and try again if the receiver begins to experience any pain or discomfort. Knight advises stimulating the receiving partner's clit, if they have one, using a vibrating wand to make it even more enjoyable. This will increase the focus on the pleasure and lessen any discomfort from the penetration. Keep in mind that we should communicate with each other frequently and follow the receiver's instructions.

Step House's studio chief, Bellucci, has a preference for Dog Style when it comes to anal sex positions. According to the content writer, the dog position is typically the finest for both novice and seasoned anal practitioners. Finding a decent viewpoint is easier for Bellucci, especially when she first starts and requires a few minutes to settle down and get into her rhythm.

Incorporate Sex Toys

According to Madam Carmen, vibrators—such as wands, eggs, and bullets—offer additional sensory pleasure during anal intercourse. For the anal newbie, entry and stretching strokes might seem very intense, so providing them with a fun diversion would be beneficial, she says. Furthermore, she adds, the vibrator's sensation might provide orgasmic relief while overwhelming the feeling of invasion.

Madam Carmen suggests experimenting with and implementing temperature play as an additional sensory stimulus. According to her, this can involve heating oils, putting metal and glass items in the freezer, or submerging them in hot water.

Stop Or Pause at Any Point

Consent may be withdrawn or renegotiated at any time. Unfortunately, a lot of individuals are unaware that you can abruptly cease an act you are doing with someone, such as anal intercourse, at any moment.

According to Gold, what one individual finds enjoyable may not be the same for another. "The secret is to use lots of lubrication, talk to your partner, and move slowly. Additionally, it's acceptable to stop if anything seems strange, hurts, or if you decide you don't want to continue. She explains that straight-up pain is a warning sign, though there can be some discomfort at first.

According to Gold, remember that you can quit at any time and that consenting to anal intercourse once does not obligate you to continue. Stop if you don't feel it. You can always pick up where you left off. No matter how many times they attempt, she points out that not everyone will embrace anal sex, which is also very acceptable.

Remember, You're Not a Porn Star!

Knight would like to emphasize that porn is entertainment; it is content that has been produced and directed.

"Everything that happens on set is discussed in detail and approved by all actors," she explains. Most actors put on butt plugs before a scene to be ready, and if you have time, you can spend a brief time off-camera with your co-star to practice and make sure everything is comfortable.

Because Gold has had anal sex several times and can easily penetrate with a not-so-small toy, it typically takes her an hour to open her ass and make an anal scene with a huge cock.

I use toys of various sizes when I watch a movie, a TikTok video, or a YouTube video. Amuse yourself by masturbating your ass. She claims that eventually it will open up and be prepared for the next huge cock or toy.

Gold observes that because the anus is a tiny hole, entry by a penis must be pretty tricky. She adds that it must remain hard for several hours of the session. To make their cock rock-hard and stay that way for hours, men may utilize penile injections. She does warn, though, that using these injections might lead to dependency, which may have long-term effects, including making it difficult to get an erection naturally.

Knight points out that not all of the accidents, cleanup breaks, and other "bloopers" that occur during a real anal sex session are depicted in pornographic videos. She claims that most of the time, pornographic videos don't show everything that happens during anal intercourse, such as the moments between cuts, water breaks, laughing, cleaning up any debris, etc.

People should avoid attempting to replicate the anal sex positions shown in porn in real life, according to Doshi. According to her, anything that appears at ease on camera might be painful.

Therefore, as Gold advises, don't base your own anal experience on porn. In movies, the actor's effortless penetration and immaculate appearance are the result of hours of preparation.

You will have a nice anal experience if you do what you feel comfortable doing, but pushing your body is setting yourself up for failure, according to St. Clair.

The Bottom Line on Butt Love

Rich nerve endings abound in the rectum and anus, just wanting to be probed, plugged, penetrated, fingered, and pegged. Why not enjoy this source of pleasure for yourself?

You might want to reevaluate and confront your worries if you're uncomfortable with having things in your butt. (It's also acceptable if you've tried it and still don't like it. You deserve a gold star for trying!

Because many STIs can spread through an exposed anal area, proceed slowly, apply a lot of lubricant, and employ a barrier approach for protection. Additionally, stop right away if something doesn't feel quite right. Anal intercourse should never cause pain. Nothing is worse than making someone decide they would never attempt butt sex again after a traumatic encounter. Because it may be magnificent when done correctly.