How to Practice Safe Post-Orgasm Torture

It's possible to have too much of something positive at times. Indeed, this also holds for intimate stimulation, particularly if you've recently hit the Big O. However, for some people, prolonged touch after an orgasm can release a specific type of pain that feels like pleasure. This BDSM technique, which is sometimes referred to as "post-orgasm torture," entails vigorous genital stimulation following climax.

For several reasons, kinksters like post-orgasm pain. The physiological component comes next. Certain submissives enjoy the delightful pain of being coerced into continuing to play while their genitalia are very sensitive. Post-orgasm torture also has a very psychological component. The chemical shift that occurs after cumming and subsequent sexual stimulation can cause a variety of novel and thrilling responses at the bottom. The Dominant finds it appealing to watch your subordinate caught between hating and loving you for their ongoing subservience.  

If any of the aforementioned appeals to you, you should learn to indulge in this delectably sinister obsession while maintaining safety and consideration for your playmate. Let's dive straight in without torturing you with the build-up.  

What is post-orgasm torture?

After one party has reached "the little death," as they say, there is a complex liminal space between the pleasure and the sorrow that comes with playing on. The unpleasant and perhaps painful stimulation of the erogenous zones immediately after an orgasm is necessary to tap into this sweet spot. The vulva, clitoris, labia, vagina, penis, anus, scrotum, or perineum are often rubbed or even slapped in this way. Immediately following the climax, these zones are likely to be very receptive.

Post-orgasm torture may not be for you if you find it highly intolerable to have your genitalia played with after an orgasm. However, if you're prepared to endure the discomfort and relinquish control, this technique might lead to subsequent, unforgettable orgasms. In addition, this activity frequently has psychological advantages.  

After an orgasm, the brain is a lively area. A surge of endorphins and oxytocin is released by your body, which can heighten your emotions of contentment, serenity, and joy. Your post-orgasmic stasis may be disturbed by prolonged stimulation, resulting in heightened arousal or more intense pleasure sensations and greater sensitivity to touch.

It is, therefore, not surprising that the BDSM community frequently engages in post-orgasm torture. A whole subgroup of meme culture about the pleasures of sensory overload following an orgasm has even been spawned by it (see the "nutted but she still suckin'" meme).

What does post-orgasm torture feel like? 

According to Aliyah Moore, PhD, a specialist at SexualAlpha, "for many, post-orgasm torture can heighten the sensitivity of erogenous zones, as the body becomes hypersensitive following climax," Kinkly reports. "This can cause feelings that fluctuate between intense pleasure and discomfort, which are frequently referred to as a 'electric' or 'tingling feeling.'"

According to Moore, the psychological aspect is also essential.

She said, "The giver-receiver dynamic can intensify feelings of vulnerability, submission, and trust." "To guarantee that it stays a pleasant and consenting experience, the intensity and duration should be adjusted to the individual's comfort and tolerance levels."

Although Moore's explanation may inspire you, remember that each person may experience this event differently. Each person uniquely experiences pleasure; depending on your current mental and physical state, it may even differ from experience to experience.

Male orgasm torture can look quite different from female orgasm torture since our gender identity even influences how we experience orgasm.

TLDR: One of the many alluring aspects of this kink is that it will feel different to each individual.

According To Readers Like You…

"With my dominant, I engage in [post-orgasm torture]." She is a woman, and I am a man. During a play session, I experienced three orgasms in total, the last of which was just a few drops of jizz. The second was like a lightning strike, swifter and more powerful. We use a lot of props in our play, and a prostate massager is one of my favourites. I have shed a tear or two during a session. I feel like I've been beaten, and my genitalia have ached. Even though I don't ask for this often, I always return for more because I like it. If someone tells you to attempt something without using a safe word, don't believe them. You must have it. - J, 29

After an orgasm, my ex-partner would cruelly polish the head of my penis with her thumbs until I couldn't stand it anymore. She was a sadist. Due to my inability to control my spasms, I enjoyed being confined the entire time. Being able to flail around was liberating. I always felt like I eventually overcame "the hump" and resumed experiencing ecstasy. It was always worthwhile. Quinn, 39

"I used to think I detested it when my partner made me orgasm and then tried to touch [my vagina]." It seemed strange and just a little off. I must start playing in subspace to immerse myself in post-orgasm torment truly. I can then almost completely block out the voice in my head that says, "This is uncomfortable," and lose myself in the mental pleasure that comes from being obedient and simply letting my partner use my body in any way he pleases. In addition, it has given me some absurd orgasms. - Beth, 27

How to Do Post-Orgasm Torture Safely 

Fundamentally, post-orgasm torture is when the Dominant exploits the vulnerable and undeveloped stage that their sub's body may be in after the orgasm. Because of this, a noticeable power shift prioritizes consent and safety. To effectively enjoy post-orgasm agony, adhere to this guide, making sure that limits are upheld at all times.

Ensure consent ahead of time.

Moore advises having a thorough discussion about limitations and boundaries before undergoing any post-orgasm torment.

"What is acceptable and what is off-limits should be agreed upon by both parties."

To guarantee greater impartiality from all parties, consider holding this conversation outside of the bedroom in a neutral setting rather than during intense desire. To control expectations and prevent play from seeming overwhelming, you might even use this discussion to establish a time limit for the session beforehand.  

The safe word is your North Star.

Whenever you participate in BDSM, always use your safe word or words. It will immediately stop playing if this phrase gets too intense or uncomfortable.

Moore advises using a word that isn't frequently used in sexual circumstances. For example, "red" means halt, and "yellow" means slow down.

Take notice of every erogenous zone.

Although pinching or stroking the penis or clitoris right after the climax is the most typical method of post-orgasm torture on the genitals, don't ignore the other sensitive areas you have available. Although the nipples, neck, and different regions are likely to be sensitive right after an orgasm, they won't produce a reaction as "painful" as the genitalia; thus, stimulating them can be a perfect prelude to post-orgasm torture.

Start slowly and watch for cues.

Moore advises, "Start with mild stimulation and progressively increase intensity." "This gives the receiver a chance to adjust and assess their level of comfort."

As the Dominant, be aware that verbal and nonverbal clues can be used to determine where your sub is. Stop and check in if your companion is displaying symptoms of distress.

Bondage and restraints are your new best friends.

Play can be enhanced for regulars at post-orgasm torment by tying your partner down and causing them to manipulate their body in its most raw form. If your goal is to unlock this kink drastically, think about purchasing a set of body-safe handcuffs or a restraint device to render the subject immobile.

Break out the toy chest.

Speaking of accessories, using pleasure items in your session doesn't require you to be a skilled rigger. Applying a vibrator to the clitoris or penis can produce extra energy that will undoubtedly send your sub into orbit. When it comes to making this type of torture enjoyable for both parties, a small amount of lubrication goes a long way.

Moore reminds Kinkly that "the body may become more dry post-orgasm." "Applying lube can also improve comfort and lessen friction."

If humiliation's your jam, lean in

The submissive may react quickly or involuntarily to post-orgasm torment since their body will be in overdrive. The torture feels more vulnerable as a result of losing control over their body, which gives the torturer a special position of power.  

Make the most of your lack of control by emphasizing how helpless and obedient the victim of post-orgasm torment must become if you or your partner have a humiliation fetish. You can use a few nasty words to push things over the line.

Some examples are "I love the way you take it" or "You look so pretty when you squirm for me. "

Mix pain with your pleasure.

Using two hands to work the penis just after ejaculation or fingering your spouse when she's in a post-climax fugue state are examples of post-orgasm torture, which is the practice of stroking or caressing your partner after they've cum.

However, impact play can be just as effective as caressing when it comes to post-orgasm agony. Instead of just stroking, try pinching, flicking, or spanking to observe how your subordinate responds.  

Deploy the aftercare

Moore advises, "After the session, participate in aftercare to assist the receiver in recovering from the intense experience." "To make sure they feel safe and taken care of, this can involve talking to them about the session, giving them water, and cuddling."

The Bottom Line

Do you believe you can handle the challenge of attempting post-orgasm torture? This BDSM exercise can lead to new ecstasies for you and your playmate, whether you're seeking the rush of pushing your boundaries or the combination of pleasure and pain.

Just keep in mind that communication and consent should be put first. The "torture" is intended to stimulate as well as to be mildly cruel. If you are willing to endure a little discomfort, you may be surprised by the delights you can experience if you approach it with curiosity and an open mind.