How to Build Up Your Partner's Orgasm Through Exquisite Torture

Waiting for your orgasm can make it much more explosive.

What does the term "exquisite torture" mean? It sounds kinky and a little frightening. We wouldn't describe it as scary, though it is undoubtedly kinky—unless you're afraid of having incredible orgasms.

The term "exquisite torture" describes a sequence of powerful sexual climaxes that might exacerbate orgasm. It makes you feel all that is happening to your body, prolonging the sexual experience. Let's be honest: we frequently speed through sex, regardless of the type, to have an orgasm and go on with our lives.

That's a step away from exquisite torment. Instead, it is living out the sexual experience to the fullest extent possible, experiencing complete erotic fulfillment. In essence, you wait until you're ready to be pushed over the brink before allowing your partner—or your partner refusing to let you—to orgasm. Indeed, it can be excruciating, but in a positive sense.

Before participating in any of these plays, don't forget to discuss permission and limits. Everyone's support and willingness to push certain comfort zones are crucial. There may be times when your partner cannot handle the intensity of the sensations. Establish a safe word for situations like that. It's okay if you don't know what a safe word is. 

You can attempt sexual torture in these entertaining methods.

Slow, Slow, Slow Oral Sex

Although the name "slow oral sex" may seem odd, it's a cunnilingus technique that can lead to your most intense orgasm to date. It's worth a try, but no guarantees. Vulva owners benefit most from this, but penises may also like it!

Get to know the vulva. Investigate it. Give oral sex a good half hour of your time. Express to your mate your want to be down there and how sexy they are.

Don't lick the clitoris quickly; instead, use deeper, more forceful tongue strokes. Make controlled, leisurely circles. Remain constant. Hold your partner's wrists at their side until you induce an orgasm if they struggle (and they have given their consent). It will not let you down. A full-body experience is possible.

Edge Your Way to Orgasm

Edging is when you tease your partner until they are close to orgasm, then stop just before they do so using techniques like oral sex, hand sex, penetrative sex, a sex toy, etc. After they have calmed down, you begin the entire sexual arousal cycle anew.

It's among the most amazing and infuriating things I've ever encountered. Because of all the buildup, the orgasm is intense when you eventually push yourself over the edge and give in to that release. Although it's a challenging discipline, mastery is achievable with some work.

Sensory Play

A seductive method to intensify orgasm and all of your sexual senses is through sensory play. Investigate your partner's body first before engaging in genital or skin-on-skin contact.

If you haven't already, there are easy methods to try. Cover your significant other's eyes with a T-shirt. Gently rub their body with a cleaned feather duster. Be mindful of erogenous areas such as the inner thighs and nipples.

Don't allow them to touch you or themselves, but take breaks for passionate kisses. Or you could take an ice cube out of the freezer and rub it on their skin.

Spanking

Before an orgasm, spanking is a terrific method to get your partner's body tense. It's a more severe form of sensory stimulation than feathers or ice. Pleasure and pain are closely related because they both engage the same part of the brain.

Your partner's brain and skin can be stimulated by a hard slap on the butt or back of the thighs, increasing their receptivity to the subsequent sensual touch.

Orgasm Deprivation

Building up pleasure without permitting an orgasmic release is similar to orgasm deprivation. They can be synonymous in some situations, according to some experts. You are essentially denying someone an orgasm when you use edging. Do you understand?

However, because orgasm deprivation can persist for days, I prefer to keep the phrases distinct as a coach. This is a serious matter and should not be taken lightly. Waiting for the release requires a genuine commitment from you and your lover. For a few days, work yourself up to almost orgasm every night (or morning, midday, or whenever).

 On the night you've chosen for the last showdown after you've tortured yourself enough, let yourself have an orgasm. It's ridiculously hot if you can pull it off, but it's not for everyone.