How to Build a Customized, DIY Strap-On Kit

Effective communication and carefully selected equipment are key components of good strap-on sex.

Greetings from the exciting world of pegging and strap-on play! I want you to have the most incredible experience possible now that you're here. Having the appropriate equipment is the first step to enjoyable strap-on play. While you don't need the priciest equipment available, you do need equipment that meets the needs of both you and your receptive partner. An enjoyable experience is not made possible by frustrating equipment. How can one obtain the best equipment, then? Instead of selecting a premade package with a harness, O-ring, and Dildo, you make your own strap-on kit!

Making your own personalized strap-on kit ensures that it is made to meet your demands rather than those of a generic person. However, I know it can be unsettling to browse a store and discover thousands of possibilities. I'm here to assist you in reducing those possibilities and selecting the strap-on harness set that best suits your requirements.

Now let's begin!

Let's get started!

Choosing a Strap-On Harness

The harness is the most crucial component of strap-on play. Your scene and your enjoyment of strap-on play will be affected by an uncomfortable or drooping harness. The harness is the first step towards making your experience as fantastic as possible.

While looking for harnesses for your do-it-yourself strap-on kit, keep the following in mind.

Types of Harnesses

There are typically three primary styles for strap-on harnesses. The strap design that secures the harness to your body is the basis for these names. The location of the remaining straps distinguishes the various types of hip harnesses, even though all of them will encircle the hips as the strongest anchor point for keeping the harness on.

Single-Strap Strap-On Harness

Similar to a thong, a single strap on a single-strap harness passes between the legs and up against the genitalia. The Sportssheets Bare as You Dare harness, for example:

People who prefer something that feels "familiar" may find single-strap harnesses ideal because they can simulate wearing a thong. Additionally, they have fewer straps, which is quite beneficial for novices.

The drawback is that if you have a penis and balls, it may be tough to wear the single strap that goes between the thighs. If you have a vulva, it can also "block" some areas you might want to use for play.

Because it has fewer straps, the Dildo can move more freely when playing because it isn't held against the body as tightly. This may be a benefit or a drawback of these harnesses. The wiggle room is excellent if you want the Dildo to have more mobility! However, the looseness of a single-strap harness could be annoying if you're starting and aren't comfortable with strapping yet.

Double-Strap Strap-On Harness

Similar to a jockstrap, a double/jockstrap style harness features two straps that run underneath the butt cheeks and between the legs, typically settling into the crease between the thighs and the pubic area, before attaching back up to the hip straps. Similar to the Joque of Spareparts:

Because the Dildo will wriggle less in a jockstrap-style harness, the dual-strap design of this harness provides a more secure fit. If playing between the wearer's legs is essential to you, this design also covers less of the vulva and makes space for a penis, similar to the Crotch Rocket harness.

In addition, you have an additional strap to worry about getting down to the proper size, and some individuals don't like how two-strap harnesses appear.

Panty-Style Strap-On Harness

Lastly, the harness in the "panty" style is precisely that. There aren't many straps or buckles on this wearable panty. It's just a panty with an O-ring put into the front to accommodate a dildo. Similar to Sasha from Spareparts:

Strap-on harnesses in the panty type provide the most straightforward and effortless wearing experience. All you have to do is put them on. Additionally, they may resemble lingerie, making the wearer feel seductive.

However, panty-style harnesses may feel less secure because they must accommodate a range of bodies without the exact strap-tightening mechanisms of other harness types. To function as clothing, the fabric must have sufficient elasticity, which is typically not the same "super tight" sensation you want to keep a dildo in place.

Your DIY Strap-On Kit: Which harness is best?

Which kind is best for you, then? Ideally, you would test each one out before making your ultimate buy. That isn't how things operate in the real world, unless you have a lot of money to spend or some really kinky friends.

Panty-style harnesses are most likely your best option if you're searching for the most comfortable strap-on harness to wear all day. They behave and feel exactly like a pair of underwear you're used to. You can either be "ready" to slide a dildo in when the major event occurs later, or you can put a packer into them throughout the day.

The smallest size ranges are found in panty-style harnesses, which also typically have built-in O-rings that restrict the range of dildo sizes you can use and might not provide as much dildo contact when pegging. Most users report that the stretchy material of the panty pulls the Dildo away from their body, depending on how well it fits.

Do you want to interact with the Dildo more? Your best option might be a double-strap/jock harness. The Dildo will come into contact with your clitoris (if you have one) more frequently because of the two straps that help hold it more securely on the body. However, a novice user may find these harnesses scary because of their increased number of straps. Additionally, some people dislike the harness's more "masculine" look.

The single-strap harness is your compromise. Although it's simple to get started, the Dildo isn't held against the body as firmly. Additionally, the strap-on giver can use the between-the-legs strap to secure their inside toys. But that's some very sophisticated planning for a DIY strap-on kit!

Strap-Ons and O-Rings: Built-In vs. Interchangeable

Securing the base of the Dildo in the harness with O-rings is crucial, and they must fit snugly. There are two types of O-rings for harnesses: interchangeable and built-in.

The Dildo will be floppy and move around a lot if the ring is too big. The Dildo may completely pop out if the ring is enormous. The Dildo will not fit into your strap-on harness if the ring is too tiny.

Despite being the most minor component in your do-it-yourself strap-on kit, the O-ring significantly influences how well everything works.

Strong, flexible rubber is sewn into the fabric of harnesses with built-in O-rings, creating a hole in the harness. These integrated O-rings are designed to expand to fit the size of your Dildo. In this manner, you never have to think about the O-ring again because it will always fit snugly around your Dildo.

That span does have a limit, though. Many of these built-in O-rings won't stretch big enough to suit your Dildo if you play with ones larger than 2". Fortunately, most vendors will let you know whether your Dildo will fit by listing the O-ring's size on the product page.

Observe how this Joque harness's O-ring is integrated directly into the strap-on harness. No other size can be substituted.

Take note of how the user may unhook the snaps on this Lush harness and, if they so choose, take the O-ring off it.

An interchangeable O-ring system is depicted above. With these harnesses, you may replace the O-rings of varying sizes completely independent of the harness. O-rings are available at hardware stores if you're crafty, or you may buy other sizes at a sex toy store. When you put it on, you might cut holes in your Dildo, so make sure it's really smooth! A snap button system holds the majority of interchangeable O-rings, making changes quick and simple.

What strap-on harness O-ring is right for me?

This is where knowing the breadth of your possible Dildo is useful. Be cautious when buying harnesses with an integrated O-ring for your do-it-yourself strap-on kit if you want an O-ring dildo larger than 2 inches in diameter. That is the range of certain built-in O-rings, but not all! But if you believe that you will only ever use sex toys with diameters under 2", a built-in O-ring could mean that you never have to worry about it again.

You should also think about how frequently you want to switch up your dildos in the middle of a session. To change out dildos, you must pull your harness down if it has an integrated O-ring. Alternatively, you can change the dildos without removing the harness, thanks to button snaps on the front of most interchangeable O-ring harnesses.

Strap-On Harness Sizing: How to get it right

Your possible strap-on harness comes in a size, just like any other item of apparel or harness. Fortunately, most strap-on harnesses are highly adaptable because manufacturers want to ensure they suit a wide range of shapes (so they don't have to build 10 versions of the same harness in slightly different size variants).

The most adjustable harnesses are single-strap and double-strap models. Since straps make up most of its construction, their design permits adjustment. To adjust the harness to your body, tighten or loosen any strap.

Each strap that makes up the strap-on harness has adjustable straps that make it simple for the wearer to tighten and loosen.

Conversely, panty-style harnesses act similarly to store-bought underwear. Although most panty-style harnesses are composed of stretchy material, which can aid in a proper fit, they are not as versatile as strappy harnesses.

Pay particular attention to the sizes the harness is listed to fit if you have a petite or plus frame. Hip harnesses typically range in length from 30 to 56 inches. However, some harness makers are beginning to create harnesses in an even wider range of sizes, up to 82".

Where you choose to wear the strap-on harness, measure your body. It will be the broadest part of your hips for most individuals. If you wish to wear your harness farther down the abdomen or higher up the stomach, measure that circumference. Make sure the harness you purchase fits the area of your body where you wish to wear it.

Anybody smaller than that strap fabric quantity can easily tighten the straps further because the only restriction on harness straps is the amount of strap fabric they have. Remember that you can easily trim off extra strap material if it is significantly smaller than the greatest circumference. Before you make those cuts, consider whether your larger companion might want to wear your harness!

Choosing a Dildo for Your Harness

Alright, the "hard part" is over now. Your homemade harness largely determines the wearer's experience of the strap-on action, which matters in this case.

You could shove the Dildo in with your hands if this were all about the receiver, but the receiver should undoubtedly enjoy the experience as well. That nice strap-on harness you chose will be helpful since we want this to be so fun that the person wearing the Dildo will want to strap it on rather than use their hands!

That being stated, the recipient is the primary consideration while choosing a dildo. The Dildo is what counts for the receiver to have a pleasant penetration, even though the wearer may like wearing the toy.

Here are some things to consider while looking for a dildo for your handmade strap-on kit:

The Biggest Factor: Dildo Width

The most important aspect of the Dildo is its width. Make sure the diameter of your Dildo is smaller than or equal to the O-ring of your strap-on harness. It will fit inside the harness if you do that.

The Dildo must, of course, also fit inside the receiver. It's crucial that your receiver can easily handle the size of the toy, particularly if you're playing anally. It is simple to injure the recipient of this strap-on cock because the wearer lacks feeling in it, particularly if the recipient finds it uncomfortable to receive the Dildo.

This implies that when you go shopping, you should start with dildo width. Sort your dildo selections by diameter first, and then begin picking your top picks within that range. Don't worry, I'll be sharing some advice shortly on determining what diameter is a decent place to start.

Additionally, any dildo you intend to use in a harness will require a flared base of some kind. Most strap-on dildos feature a notably broad flat area at the bottom. That's known as a "flared base." This keeps the Dildo from flying out of the O-ring as soon as you start having sex by helping to secure it in the harness.

However, a flared base dildo doesn't have to look so conventional and uninteresting. Some realistic dildos have testicles that can serve as a flared base. Others provide several opportunities to play with the same toy by incorporating a suction cup into the flared base.

Dildo Length

Dildo length is typically discussed first, even though for most beginners, dildo breadth is the main limiting issue. Have you ever heard the phrase "I can take 7 inches?"

I have, numerous times. For some reason, when people are looking for a dildo, length seems to be the most crucial consideration, especially for those who are interested in receiving pegging.

However, length matters, particularly for those who are new to strap-on or pegging sex. Although having an excessively long dildo is definitely conceivable, most novices find that it is less restrictive than width.

This is mainly related to the interior anatomy of each individual. You can "bang into" the walls of the butt and vagina if you insert a semi-rigid instrument too deeply. The cervix is in the vagina. The butt is a little trickier.

Since there isn't a fixed "end point" to the butt like there is to the vagina, you've undoubtedly heard that you need flared objects to play with it. This is accurate. But due to the pubo-rectal sling, the anal canal has a steep curvature of about 6" inside the bum (depending on anatomy). This provides a different angle depending on your body type and posture. This angle can occasionally be steeper than a 90-degree angle, or it might be a soft curve.

Someone may take lengthy dildos with ease if their angle is quite soft. With each push, longer, more flexible dildos may easily follow the inside channel's soft curve. However, it can be tough for the Dildo to follow that internal angle if someone's angle is very extreme. The recipient will probably experience discomfort when the Dildo hits the inside walls. I swear, it doesn't feel good to poke a dildo up against the colon's wall.

I would advise getting a set of OhNuts if someone has a very extreme viewpoint. By acting as a soft "buffer," these penis limiters slide onto any point on a dildo and stop it from sliding any deeper than where the limiters were positioned. As a result, the thruster can thrust freely without fear of damaging the receiver by pushing too deeply.

If one person is larger than the other, dildo length may also be significant. The thickness of your bodies may limit how closely your bodies may practically fit together if one person has a soft stomach or thick thighs. There's nothing wrong with that; the barrier between your bodies is just made of more squishy material. You will likely require more dildo length to achieve deep penetration because your bodies are farther apart.

A Simple Dildo Sizing Trick

You have most likely used your fingers to penetrate before attempting strap-on or pegging intercourse. Before purchasing a do-it-yourself strap-on kit, you might want to start there if you haven't already. You can use your fingers as a quick "cheat guide" to determine the appropriate dildo size.

Position your fingers where you typically prefer penetration, then remove them to measure the circumference. I suggest using an old, disposable ribbon for hygienic reasons. Put it down next to a tape measure and wrap it around your fingers where they were placed. You now know what circumference will fit you well and comfortably. You can use your circumference measurement to determine the diameter or compare the circumferences of sex toys.

Look for a dildo that is roughly 5" long and 1.25" (or less!) in diameter if you don't feel comfortable using your fingers for penetration and want to buy one right away.

If you're unsure of what to get for your first Dildo, any of these toys can be an excellent place to start:

Remember that if the toy you buy now is too tiny, you can always get another one. You can continue to play with your too-small toy and enjoy the sensations until that new, larger toy arrives.

However, if you buy a dildo that is too large, you will be left with a useless paperweight, and you will not be able to play with the toy at all. Therefore, err on the side of "too small" when everything is considered. If nothing else, you can still play with it!

Dildo Material

Let's move on to materials now that you have a basic understanding of how to determine size when buying a dildo. See Kinkly's information on sex toy materials as a starting point. Before you make your last dildo purchase, it's worthwhile to quickly review this tutorial to have a comprehensive grasp of sex toy materials.

You want a dildo that is at least free of phthalates. (All of the dildos at the Kinkly Shop are phthalate-free if you wish to shop easily.)

If you intend to use anal penetration, be aware that toys made of sanitizable materials—such as a waterproof silicone dildo—are less likely to smell like the anal area after play. That was all I needed as a selling pitch. I only use body-safe, pure silicone for my pegging gadgets.

Additionally, review the Dildo's cleaning and maintenance guidelines provided by the manufacturer. To ensure that you may use it for many years, you should ensure it is simple to remove.

Other Things to Consider

We've covered every practical aspect of a dildo, but looks are also important. The way your dildo looks can alter how it feels, but it can also change how you think about it. While some dildos are constructed in solid, vibrant colors without any realistic detailing, others have testicles, texture, and a variety of skin tones that give them an incredibly lifelike appearance.

Select a dildo that makes you both feel attracted to each other. When you were smitten with the idea of owning a genuine penis, you might be shocked to learn that your playmate or lover despises such devices. You may also be surprised that your playmate or partner believes your preferred design won't make much of an impression on them. Here, open communication is ideal!

Keep in mind that having any dick in the world is one of the fantastic things about strap-on sex. ANYONE. Realistic, thick, and enormous? It is possible. A dildo that vibrates in the unbelievable? Completed. A cumsing silicone dildo? Yes, that is also possible. Don't be scared to try out shapes that appeal to both the wearer and the recipient; this is an incredible opportunity.

Additionally, some dildos have extra features. Many dildos that are strapped on have vibrations. Vibrations can be entertaining; depending on the toy you select, the wearer may feel the vibrations against their own body and the receiving partner.

However, vibrating dildos can also be more costly, and if they aren't waterproof, they might pose special cleaning challenges. Before determining whether vibrations are a good fit for you, you need to consider both sides.

You may also want to think about your possible Dildo's adaptability if you're on a tight budget. For other kinds of play, would you like to hold it? Do you intend to use it for solo masturbation while you're not with someone? Think of other uses for your Dildo. When you don't feel like taking out your adjustable harness, for instance, almost every flared base dildo may be mounted onto a sex toy mount for hands-free riding.

What about strapless strap-on dildos?

In my opinion, the strapless strap-on dildos are something newbies should avoid. Strapless strap-on dildos add several extra considerations to your do-it-yourself harness and Dildo, but they may also be a hot dream and something to investigate further.

This includes things like:

• Comfort and lubrication for the dildo wearer.
• Ensuring that the wearer is at the proper angle.
• Ensuring that the wearer finds the insertable part pleasant.
• Warm-up, foreplay, and preparation for the recipient and the wearer to penetrate.
• Selecting a harness that fits the Dildo's strapless strap.
• Maintaining the wearer's Dildo firmly inside their body.

Therefore, strapless strap-ons require far more management than they do.

Additionally, bulkier dildos are typically linked to strapless strap-on dildos. If a receiver is uncomfortable taking dildos at least 1.5" in diameter, they are normally unpleasant.

If you're starting with strap-on play, think about continuing with a regular dildo for a while before upgrading to a strapless strap-on dildo. The Strap-on-Me Vibrating Bendable Strapless Strap-On is my fave when you're ready. Having a grasp on both the harness and dildo side of things makes experimenting with strapless strap-on dildos much more enjoyable.

Don't forget about non-hip harnesses.

Don't worry if you've read this essay and decided that a hip harness isn't for you. There are alternatives. If a hip-length harness isn't making you happy, you don't have to "settle" for it!

The Sportssheets Thigh Strap-on Harness is an alternative. This enables you to easily strap a dildo onto the thigh with the use of simple Velcro; no hip involvement is necessary.

This shifts the entire attention from the hips to the thigh. This opens up a variety of new sex positions, such as the Mesmerthighs position (shown below), in addition to creating room on the genitals for mutual stimulation.

Even if it might not be your thing, I wanted to let you know there is an alternative in case it is!

Should I buy a premade strap-on kit?

Alright, I understand. I am aware that I have devoted this entire piece to explaining the advantages of purchasing a strap-on harness, a Dildo, and possibly an O-ring separately. However, you do not need to. If you locate a prefabricated strap-on kit that looks ideal, you may be in a rush or want to let someone else pick the items for you to save the burden of making the decision.

With all this knowledge regarding DIY strap-on kits, you can now decide more intelligently whether a readymade strap-on set is your best option.

For instance, consider the Sportssheets Newcomer's Strap-On Kit. The Sportsheets New Comer's Kit Special Edition makes things as easy as possible for pegging enthusiasts who don't want to worry about the little things (and want a cheap, one-stop shop to purchase a dildo and harness).

Your beginner-sized dildos won't slide out thanks to the small O-ring that comes with them. If you switch to giant dildos and O-rings, you won't ever have to worry about snaps, thanks to the velcro refastening interchangeable O-ring system. Additionally, a wide variety of body sizes can be accommodated by the strap-on harness's adjustable construction. The Special Edition Strap-on Kit for Newcomers fits up to a 72" hip. Want it to be a little thinner? It also gets a lot, lot smaller! Additionally, it includes a beginner-friendly, ultra-slim dildo that is perfect for people who are new to anal pleasure or who enjoy ultra-slim vaginal dildos. It's five inches in length with a super-slim diameter of 0.87".

New Comer's Kit is an excellent place to start when figuring out what works and what doesn't for you before investing in a more costly DIY, customized strap-on kit, even if it won't be your "forever" strap-on kit.

Starting with a premade strap-on kit helps you answer questions like:

• For your comfort, do you require or desire cushioning beneath the Dildo?
• How about some back padding? Do you require that to support your body?
• How significant do you think an interchangeable O-ring is?
• Does your harness feel comfy? It is made of nylon.
• What position do you prefer for your strap-on harness?
• Would you want it higher or lower on your body, or is this a nice resting place?

The Bottom Line

You can choose every component that best suits your body type and desired sex by creating your own personalized, do-it-yourself strap-on kit. It's the most effective method to guarantee that the O-ring, Dildo, and harness fit comfortably, give the wearer a sensual vibe, and make the recipient feel incredible! However, if you're new to strap-on sex and aren't sure what you're searching for yet, there's nothing wrong with using a prefabricated strap-on kit.

You may take your incredible do-it-yourself strap-on set and learn even more when ready.

Enjoy some fantastic strap-on sex and have fun shopping!