Discovering Your FemDom Persona
Kink is an adventure. Enjoy the journey and the inspiration you uncover!
Every individual has a unique personality, which alters how they would engage with any part of the environment. How you like to enjoy your kink interactions might also be influenced by your personality. What FemDom persona most appeals to you can be determined in part by your personality, including your likes, dislikes, and preferences in your dynamic. Do you enjoy cuddling and are a soft-spoken, dominant person? Are you a rigid FemDom that demands flawless obedience from all of your subs? Does it seem like a turn-on or a turn-off to humiliate your lover in public? If you had a submissive person at your disposal, what would you want to do with them? Your personality can influence the kinds of dynamics that appeal to you.
But your FemDom character doesn't have to be fixed by your personality. Your personality will determine what you feel most at ease with or what you strongly identify with, but it doesn't have to control your behavior all the time. A timid, kind individual could easily pretend to be a controlling, "cruel" mistress. An outgoing, tomboyish person could seem like a kind, kind, and "care-taking" mother. Remember that these classifications aren't meant to confine you. Their purpose is to assist you in considering ideas you might not have considered.
Are you interested in the various "types" of FemDom personas? This list will give you a basic sense of some of the more well-liked roles you could play, but it is not comprehensive.
Care-Taking
A care-taking dominant is someone who enjoys looking after their slave, earning it its moniker in the FemDom community ("gentle FemDom") to distinguish it from the typical harsh preconceptions of FemDom. Being considerate and encouraging to your subordinate is the source of your dominance. Bathing their submissive, showering her with praise and pet names, giving her lots of embraces where she may be the "big spoon," gently promoting sex where she makes the decisions, and generally taking the lead in most relationship decisions are all examples of someone who fits into the mild FemDom dynamic.
Encouraging
The caring persona and the encouraging dominant are comparable, but the former is more concerned with the personal development of the submissive they are caring for. Most positive dynamics involve a definite desire for better, regardless of the kind of growth. Slave training, a fitness regimen, weight loss objectives, dietary adjustments, fashion shifts, social development, and more can all be considered motivating factors. In the encouraging dynamic, the female dominant establishes guidelines and boundaries to assist the submissive partner in gradually progressing in the assigned areas. Consider this dynamic as a mentor or life coach with many kinks.
Pampered Princess
The female dominant's pleasure and enjoyment are the main emphasis of this dynamic. A FemDom who desires to be pampered will be more of a top-focused dynamic, whereas supportive and nurturing dynamics are typically appreciated as sub-focused dynamics. The female dominant in this dynamic probably requests a lot of foot rubs, massages, baths, lotioning, and other services. Couples spa massages, shopping excursions, and new clothes and shoes may also be included, depending on the agreement between the partners.
Sadistic
The sadistic persona may be ideal if you want to use spankings and other cruel practices on your subservient pet. In contrast to the different identities, your kink is undoubtedly painful and uncomfortable. You enjoy watching a subservient person suffer for your amusement. But you don't want to shatter your submissives despite that kink. You should probably look for someone who has the exact masochistic needs as you. Sadistic FemDoms will probably engage in kinky activities like electro-play, bondage, flogging, spankings, and more for a considerable amount of time.
Cruel
The harsh FemDom can become your new favorite character if you enjoy humiliation. The cruel persona is one of those personalities that necessitates a strong, long-lasting relationship with your partner; otherwise, many of the characteristics of cruel behavior may be abusive rather than merely role-playing with the agreement. The ruthless dominatrix enjoys tearing her subordinate to pieces. To get her attention, she will love to call her submissive names, act as though she doesn't care about them, have them perform humiliating and demeaning duties and more.
Mixtures
Everybody, of course, doesn't fit neatly into a box, and your feminine nature is no exception. Even though you're a complete caretaker, you may be a touch sadistic when you're in the correct frame of mind. That's quite typical! Numerous more kinds of femdomme personalities exist as well. Since we know how diverse human personalities are, your femme identity ultimately depends on your personality!
How to Figure Out Where You Fit
But how do you determine where you fit in now that you understand some of those personalities? Fortunately for you, it's not too tricky! You act on your fantasies! When you consider performing it, what excites you? Do you have a mental scenario that you keep playing repeatedly? What would you most like to do if you were in front of a submissive kneeling right now? One of my frequent fantasies, for instance, is to put a male subordinate in a chastity cage until he achieves my desired level of fitness or weight loss.
Where to Get More FemDom Ideas
Do you enjoy the concept of being in command but don't yet have any fantasies? Make an effort to get ideas from these sources:
Tumblr and Blogging Websites
The internet is a fantastic resource if you're searching for a free and modern way to peruse thousands of possible kinky scenarios and determine which ones appeal to you. While Tumblr is renowned for being a fantastic source of FemDom photos, FemDom blogs will feature a wealth of written narratives and firsthand accounts. Look for things you like and try to get some ideas about the dominant person you would be.
Printed and Online Erotica
Erotica is another easy method to get your FemDom personality going. Finding printed or digital readings by published authors is much simpler now than in the past, especially with the rise in the popularity of e-books. While this isn't always the case, "published" material is typical of a far higher calibre than free content. Lacking the funds to assist a FemDom writer? Take a look at some of the free erotica websites available online.
Adult Movies
Adult films may be the best option if you want to consume your FemDom content visually. Consider professional work from big-studio firms if you're looking for ideas about cruel or sadistic demeanour. These categories encompass nearly all popular FemDom porn. Are you trying to find something softer? You might have excellent luck on amateur channels, where people are likelier to depict their dynamics—which aren't always nasty or cruel.
Fetlife and Online FemDom Forums
Participating in the community is another approach to finding inspiration. Since everyone has been there before, the majority of FemDom communities are open to newcomers. Hearing about people's real-life experiences and dynamics will inspire you more than waiting for it through erotic channels. If you attend a couple's meeting, you'll also be able to observe their dynamics in action. Try to reach out to a local FemDom community in person if you can. Try any of the discussion-based Fetlife groups (or another online FemDom forum) if your search for a local FemDom group isn't succeeding.
It's essential to keep in mind that practically everything you come across is intended to be pornographic while you're looking for ideas. Everything is set up to be the "hottest of the hot"—some of the "ideal" sex situations available. That isn't how real life is. Online content might inspire your persona and scenes but don't allow it to set you up for failure. Sure, your nasty, controlling scene might go well, but you'll probably make a mistake or laugh a few times. It may be necessary to briefly release your trembling-in-fear submissive from bondage due to a leg cramp. You'll be much more at ease when actual life eventually appears in your scenarios.
As always, you should anticipate that your trip into kink will be just that—a journey. Enjoy the process of getting inspired, and above all, have fun.
