10 Hot Sex Positions That Are Better With a Spreader Bar
Spreader bars are easy, seductive, and can improve sex beyond recognition. Your motor is sure to fire up in these sultry positions.
Do you know what a spreader bar is? A metal bar that passes between limbs to "spread" them apart is precisely what it sounds like. Either cuffs or attachment points for attaching your shackles are integrated into this bondage gadget. However, once the spreader bar is in place, the limbs cannot be closed since the bar remains between them and spread apart.
Although they can be used on the wrists or in other inventive ways, spreader bars are most frequently fastened to the ankles to spread the legs widely.
You can probably already see how erotic spreader bars can be. They leave some places "open for access"—such as the space between the thighs where most people prefer to play—in addition to making the person wearing the spreader bar feel more vulnerable and enslaved.
Do you want to know how to use a spreader bar? Try these desirable sex positions.
Spreader Bar Sex Positions
You came here to read about all the sexiest ways to use a spreader bar in the bedroom, so let's get started.
The Basic Y Position
The Basic Y position is almost universally known as the first spreader bar position that people tested. It's simple, comfy, and a terrific way to experience what it's like to wear a spreader bar.
This spreader bar sex position is also excellent for self-bondage for many people. Another simple approach to installing the spreader bar is to use the Basic Y position. After that, you are free to go wherever you like!
The Standing Bar Position
You don't have to play your spreader bar all when the person is in a supine position. Instead, the Standing Bar Position spreads the tied person's ankles wide using the spreader bar. You can change the "spread" of the person's ankles using an adjustable spreader bar, but if your spreader bar isn't adjustable, be sure your partner's legs can spread out as widely as the bar's length.
However, be cautious to account for any loss of balance, particularly if you plan to do anything to the person who is tied that could cause them to move their body about (such as spanking!). Accidental falls can be avoided by allowing the individual to lean forward and grasp a stable item, such as a countertop, to stay upright.
Or, if you genuinely like the idea of your bound companion standing tall in their spreader bar bondage, think about performing this scene next to the bed, keeping in mind the momentum of the activity, so that if your hostage loses their balance for whatever reason, they can fall upon the fluffy, soft surface.
If you follow those safety tips, this position might also be excellent for solo play. There must be a certain allure to masturbating when in such a precarious position.
Use the Sportssheets Expandable Spreader Bar and Cuff Set to give it a try.
Carnal Clutch Position
The Carnal Clutch position makes it simple to combine bondage and sexual activity. The penetrating partner can easily bring the spreader bar to their chest, supporting the weight of the receiver's legs, by employing a spreader bar wrapped in a soft, huggable layer (the Talea!). It's a combination of sex position, bondage position, and sex sling!
Hit the g-spot or p-spot considerably more easily if you raise your legs in the air like this. Using a Liberator Wedge or another type of sex furniture to elevate the hips could further expose that area.
Most couples will want to try this with the receiving spouse reclining on the edge of a high, stable platform to allow the penetrating partner to stand. But you could also do this on a bed with the entering spouse kneeling if the angles work for you.
The Liberator Talea soft spreader bar is displayed.
Behind-the-Back Position
Spreader bars are not limited to the ankles; they can also be effectively used on the wrists. The wrists are held in the same manner as in the "Server's Hand" rope bondage position—but without the rope—when in the behind-the-back position! Place the subject's wrists near their shoulders, run the spreader bar behind their back, and fasten the cuffs to their wrists. This will prevent the person who is chained from lowering their hands by holding them up by the shoulders.
This position might feel extremely vulnerable, especially for those who have breasts. They will thrust their chest forward by pushing their wrists close to their shoulders. For many who enjoy this kind of limitation, the spreader bar's placement on the back effectively prevents practically all mobility, which can be rather enjoyable.
This position in rope bondage is called "Server's Hand" because it looks a lot like a tray held on the shoulder when food is being served. Experimenting with the Behind-the-Back Spreader Bar posture might be entertaining if combined with some service submission.
Remember that this spreader bar position will only be available for a short period of time. Consider how rapidly you experience "pins and needles" as you raise your arms in the air. That's roughly when you must enjoy your desired activity before changing.
Use the Bound to You Spreader Bar to give it a try.
The Vertical X Position
Many of us experience something when we see someone's hands helplessly chained above their head. The Vertical X Position exploits that.
You can easily confine the wrists above the head by hanging the spreader bar from any strong overhead point. Because the entire body is exposed and there is no way to hide it, this can make one feel incredibly vulnerable. The Vertical X Position has a massive following in kink circles, in part because it allows for practically all sex activities. After all, limbs are usually out of the way.
Be aware that the Vertical X Position has a limited lifespan, just like other above-the-head positions. Due to improper wrist placement, most people will have a pins-and-needles sensation in their arms.
Before using your spreader bar in a weight-bearing position like this, make sure it is made to carry weight. When a person is placed on a ceiling hook designed for a potted plant, it is likely to fall. Make sure the bondage point you use is installed appropriately. Consider hiring an expert if you intend to perform this type of bondage frequently. (You can mention that you would want to have one of those floating egg chairs installed.)
Use the Sportssheets Expandable Spreader Bar and Cuff Set to try.
Subservient Smooching Position
Although the Subservient Smooching position is depicted with portable stocks rather than a spreader bar, the same idea may be achieved with a spreader bar, perhaps resulting in some hot make-out moments! Just tie your captive's wrist cuffs to a spreader bar that is in front of (or behind, depending on your inclination!) their head!
A great deal of potential enjoyment is on the table because their wrists are chained to the bar while the rest of their body is free to move! However, the face and chest will likely be the simplest to reach without unbalancing the tied partner. For this reason, this posture is ideal for breast play, breast clamps, and making out. (You might also include a tickling scenario, although we advise lying down for that one.)
You can "pull" your kneeling victim closer for additional kisses whenever you'd like if your spreader bar contains a bondage point in the center.
Displayed alongside Liberator Bastion
Four Points, One Bar Position
Four bondage points are integrated into the bondage bar of certain spreader bars. This increases the number of bondage options by enabling the attachment of four kinky restraints rather than the customary two. The Four Points, One Bar Position is a simple way to get a hog-tie-like position if you have a particular spreader bar that permits it.
The bound person must be flexible to reach their wrists to the same plane as their ankles in this position. This might be difficult (at best) or unfeasible for many people. But that doesn't mean you have to quit the job! You may maintain the same position by adding a different spreader bar, one for the wrists and one for the ankles.
Hootie positions (like this one!) are infamous for being hard on the lungs of those who can pull them off. Ensure you communicate frequently and be prepared to have a short lifespan for this role. Unclip the wrists or ankles to make it more comfortable so that play may continue.
Use the Sportssheets Bondage Bar to give it a try.
Leapfrog Bondage Position
By placing the bound individual on their knees, the Leapfrog bondage position is a straightforward variation of the Four Points, One Bar posture. After that, the ankles are cuffed with the spreader bar. The bound individual places their wrists adjacent to the spreader bar by reaching their arms between their wide legs while bearing all their weight on their knees. The individual can then be held in that position by fastening the spreader bar to the wrist cuffs.
The main reason this spreader bar sex position is so popular is that it puts everything on view. For the individual who is bound, this can seem quite vulnerable. Additionally, it makes the penis, vagina, and butt freely accessible, which might facilitate easy sex or the usage of body-safe sex gadgets. Everyone can take their time in this bondage sex position because it's more comfortable and easier to maintain than many of the other spreader bar bondage sex positions on this list.
A separate pair of kinky restraints that keep the wrists at chest level can be a convenient substitute for people who might not have the flexibility to lower their wrists to the bar comfortably. (If the knees dislike this position, think about placing some Liberator sex furniture underneath the stomach to relieve pressure on them and support part of the body weight.)
I advise utilizing cushions or other position aids to ensure the bound person is comfortable and able to breathe easily because this position will place a lot of weight on their face and sternum. Although the graphic shows how to add a mouth gag to the position, I advise trying it a few times without one first to ensure the person who is bound can breathe easily and express any discomfort.
Try it with Talea, the Liberator.
Bent Over Bondage Position
Are you up for one more challenge? This is, without a doubt, the hardest and riskiest sex position on this list. It takes a significant degree of flexibility and balance, and if the bound person tips, they can no longer catch themselves. In essence, it's yoga.
The bound individual should stand with their ankles spread wide to do the "Bent Over Bondage Position." An adjustable spreader bar will enable you to position it in your partner's most comfortable, typical standing position, making it the most steady starting point. After binding the ankles to the spreader bar, the individual stoops to reach down and bind the wrists to the spreader bar.
You can bind the bound person's wrists together with cuffs and fasten them to the spreader bar with a bondage tether if they are unable to reach their wrists to their feet comfortably.
The bound partner may feel helpless in this situation. It is nearly impossible to move the body away from any kind of contact or sensation, so they will also need to concentrate on maintaining their balance. As a result, they may feel extremely vulnerable and "at the mercy" of their partner. Most of the genital region is left open for play as well.
As you might expect, the greatest risk in this position is falling. The person can easily fall straight onto their head because they cannot brace themselves. Avoid doing this pose with someone who isn't very stable, and completely rule out any potential balance-destroying factors like heels, drowsiness, or alcohol to assist in avoiding this.
You can have the person stand up against the bed to help make this position even more solid. Depending on the height of your bed, the person may be able to rest their head and upper chest onto it, which can provide them something to lean against and keep them from tumbling over, but they may need to bend their arms somewhat to make this comfortable.
Avoid using any equipment at all and utilize verbal bondage to tell the person who is bound to keep their wrists close to the spreader bar if you want to change this position for maximum safety. Impact toys, like riding crops, can be a terrific prop that can provide a rapid "punishment" if the prisoner moves. This gives the person a simple way to stop themselves if they tip, but it also makes a great cause to "punish" them if they get careless.
Use the Sportssheets Bondage Bar to give it a try.
The Advanced X Position
Do you have two spreader bars? We've got something for you!
If you can bind the ankles and the wrists, why limit yourself to just binding one? They are immediately possible with two spreader bars.
Get the person wearing the bondage into the Basic Y position. A spreader bar for the ankles should be attached first, followed by one for the wrists. It's that easy! After that, the bound individual might relax or sit for a long time.
Look at the Sportssheets Adjustable Spreader Bar and the Sportssheets Enchanted Spreader Bar.
The Inverted X Position
Turn the "Advanced X Position" over so the individual is on their hands and knees. This makes it easy to access everything pleasurable between the thighs in addition to leaving the entire butt accessible.
To make this one as comfy as possible, you might want to add some pillows or Liberator sex furniture. Most people are not accustomed to being on their hands and knees with their ankles and wrists widely spaced. The tension can be lessened using an adjustable spreader bar on its lowest spread settings. Still, most individuals shouldn't be expected to sustain this posture for extended periods.
Look at the Sportssheets Adjustable Spreader Bar and the Sportssheets Enchanted Spreader Bar.
Spreader Bar Comparison
Uncertain about which spreader bar to purchase? We understand that there can be some confusion in the spreader bar industry. You can use this simple chart to determine which spreader bar will work best for your upcoming bondage session.
Basic Spreader Bar Safety
In the realm of BDSM, lying down with spreader bars is a low-risk bondage activity, particularly if you're using a pre-made set that has been explicitly constructed for sex. Still, it's crucial to follow a few fundamental safety precautions.
Have an Escape Plan
In an emergency, make sure you know how to remove your partner from the spreader bar quickly. You may desire your spouse to leave their bondage soon for a variety of reasons, including breathing difficulties, panic attacks, or simply leg cramps. Ensure you understand how your spreader bar operates and how to remove it if something goes wrong quickly.
Decide on a Safeword
Before you start, go over safe terms with your partner. Safewords are strange, unrelated-to-sex words that indicate that something is seriously wrong—and you aren't just role-playing distress—because kink can frequently involve role-play and "I'm being forced into pleasure!" dynamics. Saying "yellow banana!" can indicate that something is amiss, even though you could like saying "No, please don't!" during your role-playing exercise (when you don't want them to stop!).
If you enjoy wearing a gag or otherwise obstructing verbal communication, use a safe gesture (such as holding coins or a set of keys to drop or toss) in place of a word.
Establish Good Communication
Ensure you and your companion agree regarding safety before you begin playing. When both partners have a strategy, they can communicate clearly and stay on the same page. To ensure you're doing well, you should check in with each other frequently, even if you have a safe word.
Don't Push Too Far
The distance between the person's limbs should be considered, especially when using spreader bars. In certain situations, a person's limb may begin to press on the bar if you have stretched them to their maximum length. If an adjustable spreader bar is available, consider it; otherwise, keep the position length shorter.
Consider How You'll Play
Particular safety issues arise if the spreader bar wearer is to be walking. Most importantly, be sure you have a fall strategy. A person serving your coffee with their hands bound in a spreader bar may seem attractive, but it also poses a special problem because they cannot defend themselves or brace themselves if they fall. Please do your best to reduce this danger and prepare for it.
Remember to account for weariness as well. Limbs may become fatigued or begin to nod off, particularly if this spreader bar is being used for purposes other than sex. To make sure you're both completely present, remember this: communicate openly with your partner, and be flexible enough to switch positions when needed.
