13 Sex Positions for Great Anal Sex
Backdoor fans of all skill levels will enjoy these anal sex positions. You can have the best butt sex your body can have if you have time, patience, and communication.
People enjoy anal intercourse for several reasons.
For starters, there is a significant amount of pleasure potential in the anus and rectum due to the high concentration of nerve endings there. The intimacy and trust needed to perform this sexual act with a partner may be enjoyable to others. Furthermore, certain people's cultural or personal beliefs may make anal sex exciting or taboo.
It's hard to overstate the importance of communication, relaxation, and lubrication (a lot of it!) for a safe and enjoyable experience when it comes to anal play. Furthermore, it's crucial to remember that every person has a unique body and set of experiences, so what one person finds comfortable or uncomfortable may not be the same for another.
But before you jump in, keep in mind that every person has a unique anal sex experience. Determining what works best for you and your partner could take some trial and error. Assume, for instance, that you have trouble relaxing sufficiently for anal penetration in an upright sex position. Carol Queen, PhD, a staff sexologist at Good Vibes and curator of the Antique Vibrator Museum, advises attempting a different posture where the receptive partner can lie down and unwind. Small changes can have a significant impact on this situation.
You can have the best butt sex your body can have if you have time, patience, and communication.
These 13 anal sex positions might help add some excitement to the experience and offer some ways to spice it up.
Beginner Anal Sex Positions
Missionary Position
How It Works: The missionary position is when the penetrator is on top, pushing into their lover, while the victim is on their back.
Why It's Great: According to sexologist Marla Renee Stewart, MA, spokesman for the sexual wellness brand and shop Lovers, if you are the one being penetrated, you can control the depth of penetration with your legs, letting your partner go as deep or as shallow as you wish. Additionally, it's a terrific method for your partner to visualize themselves penetrating you, which may be quite stimulating and aid in their climax. "This position can be as much fun going slow as it is going fast," Stewart continues.
Modify It: According to Stewart, if you have a vulva and wish to use toys in this position, using your favorite sex toy could assist you in relaxing your anal sphincter for easy penetration.
According to Stewart, using a quality hand-sized wand, like the Lovers Wonder Wand, or an air pulse toy, like the We-Vibe Melt, if you enjoy suction, is a tremendous benefit to your pleasure. If you want to include your genitalia in the celebration, a pocket stroker, such as the Zolo, might be a terrific addition to the experience if you have a penis.
In any case, Missionary is an excellent job for people who enjoy a variety of stimuli.
Spoon Position
How It Works: According to Melissa Cook, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and author with FunwithFeet, the Spoon position involves both lovers lying on their sides facing the same direction, with the receiving partner in front of the penetrating partner.
Both parties can then regulate the depth and rate of penetration as the penetrating partner enters the receiving partner from behind, according to Cook.
Why It's Great: Due to its great flexibility, comfort, and ability to accommodate couples of all sizes, this is a great position. On a lazy day when you want to take your time and appreciate each other, spooning is a terrific way to have anal sex. Furthermore, it doesn't require much physical effort or acrobatics.
Modify It: According to Cook, this role can also be changed and tailored to the tastes of more seasoned couples. To increase the feeling and enjoyment of anal intercourse in this position, for instance, couples may decide to utilize gadgets like vibrators or butt plugs, she says.
Alternatively, Cook points out that others might try varying postures and angles, such as elevating one leg or changing the angle of penetration for more stimulation.
Going For It Position
How It Works: In the "Going for It" posture, the recipient places the upper portion of their body across a table or countertop, allowing them to be penetrated from behind, according to sex educator and Early to Bed owner Searah Deysach.
Why It's Great: According to Deysach, the receiver has something to grasp onto and support their weight while their partner can easily access them in this position.
Modify It: According to Deysach, you might discover that the smooth coolness feels nice against your skin, but you might also want to place a blanket or towel on the countertop for comfort. Additionally, you can experiment with the receiving partner's orientation; for example, sleeping on their back instead of their stomach might cause different sensations.
Afternoon Delight Position/Scissor Position
How It Works: The Scissor and Afternoon Delight positions are similar; which one you select will rely on what is most comfortable for your body and your partner.
According to Lyndsey Murray, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and proprietor of Relationship Matters Therapy, the bottom partner assumes this position by lying on their back with one leg pushed out and the other bent at the knee, putting the bent knee as close to their shoulder as possible. At this angle, the other partner penetrates the bottom partner while lying on their side, facing the bottom partner perpendicularly, according to Murray.
Why It's Great: According to Murray, this position can result in a mind-blowing sexual encounter since it allows for deeper penetration due to the bigger aperture the bottom partner has made by elevating their legs.
Modify It: Murray recommends that partners lie entirely for increased skin-to-skin contact. This means that both partners should be on their sides, facing the same direction, with one partner in front and one behind them, with the back partner's stomach facing their partner's back. In this situation, a strap-on or dildo would also be helpful.
Hits the Spot Position
How It Works: The receptive partner lies face down on the bed in the "Hits the Spot" posture. "They might want to recline up' onto a pillow [so] that they can raise their chest enough so that they don't need to turn their head if it's uncomfortable to turn their head to one side," explains Carol Queen, PhD, Curator of the Antique Vibrator Museum and Staff Sexologist at Good Vibes. According to Queen, the receptive partner's legs can be closed, where the insertive partner places their knees on either side or spread, where the insertive partner kneels between them.
According to Queen, the hands on the bottom can be placed at their sides, spread out in front of them (which would provide them with some leverage if they wished to shove back against their partner), or tucked under them for stimulation.
Why It's Great: Beginners can experiment with anal play in this straightforward position for bodies of all sizes and talents.
Modify It: Queen recommends employing a sex positioning wedge, such as one of the Liberator shapes, to raise the receptive partner's butt. (It's in plus size here.) This facilitates access while preserving the bottom's ability to unwind and feel supported.
Intermediate Anal Sex Positions
Bind and Bang Position
How It Works: The Bind and Bang position expands the area surrounding the receiving partner's clitoris or penis by adding a pillow or wedge to the conventional missionary position. Additionally, this tiny bit of lift will make it possible to utilize hands or small toys.
Why It's Great: According to Sarah Melancon, PhD, a sexuality and relationships specialist at SexToyCollective.com, many people find that the penetration angle is more enjoyable when a cushion or sex wedge is placed beneath the receiving partner's pelvis. She cites a December 2022 study that discovered that employing a cushion in the missionary posture enhanced blood flow to the clitoris, potentially leading to an increase in pleasure. Although the focus of this study was vaginal sex, Melancon notes that the same physics relating to the interaction of thrusting and gravity forces would probably also apply to anal sex.
Modify It: This job is ideal for a bit of bondage, as the name implies. If you're lucky enough to own a Liberator Black Label Wedge, try attaching the receptive partner's wrists to the anchor points on the side of your sex furniture or the headboard above you.
Doggy Style Position
How It Works: According to Melissa Stone, sex and relationships expert at Joy Love Dolls, "Doggy Style" involves one person bending over, crouching on all fours (often on their hands and knees), or lying on their abdomen for sexual activity, including sex or other forms of sexual penetration.
Why It's Great: An ideal position for anal intercourse is Doggy Style. According to Stone, this position provides the receiver with a great deal of control over the angle and pace and permits deep penetration. It's also a fantastic way to spice up your sexual life!
Modify It: If the recipient does not want to be deeply entered, consider using an Ohnut. Couples can adjust the depth of penetration using this flexible wearable buffer.
Little Lift Position
How It Works: One traditional anal sex position is Doggy Style. However, the Little Lift Position version lowers the receiver's head and upper torso onto the bed.
Be sure to be vocal about what feels good and what doesn't. If you are not in person with your partner, they might not notice if you are acting fake. If something feels wonderful or hurts, keep doing it.
Why It's Great: Supporting the recipient during anal intercourse can be achieved by lying on pillows or, better yet, a sex wedge-like liberator. Because the prostate and G-spot are closer to the surface at this angle, their stimulation is improved.
Modify It: "This position also works great for adding clitoral stimulation with hands or a toy," says Inka Winter, a sex educator, counsellor, and director of ethical, feminist porn for women. In order to use the other arm or hand to reach between her belly and the pillows with a toy, Winter places a number of pillows beneath her stomach to support her (as opposed to the pelvis). According to Winter, it's crucial to incorporate clitoral stimulation with anal intercourse.
Bonus: Winter's website, ForPlay Films, which showcases erotica by women, for women, dubbed Valentine au Derriere, has a fantastic introduction to the anal play scene.
Lap Dance Position
How It Works: The position for a lap dance is straightforward: sit on your partner's dildo or penis.
Why It's Great: According to Searah Deysach, a sex educator and proprietor of the sex boutique Early to Bed, this is a fantastic way to give the recipient control over the depth and rate of penetration. I also appreciate that this works in cases where thrusting is difficult due to the bottom partner's constraints. Additionally, the receiving spouse can easily access their own bits in front for added pleasure.
Modify It: Although Deysach points out that the receiver can readily utilize a vibrator or masturbation sleeve while in this position, no adjustments are required for this one.
Eiffel Tower Position
How It Works: This is similar to what sexual educator and Furnpeak author Sasha Linch says. Standing Doggy Style is where one partner hunches over and supports themselves on the ground. According to Linch, the partner at the back should be aware of hard thrusting and help the one in front.
Why It's Great: This job is beautiful because the top person has complete authority. Additionally, your spouse can play with your cheeks because their butt is right there when they are hunched over.
Modify It: For those playing strap-on, Linch advises utilizing a stool, wedge, or sex pillow. She adds that gadgets like nipple clamps can enhance the sensation.
To get into the Handcuffs position, have the penetrating partner grasp the receptive partner's wrists if you enjoy bondage.
Advanced Anal Sex Positions
Rider-on-Top Position
How It Works: According to Madelaine Ross of The Dildo Hub, picture the two partners meeting in person, touching each other's palms, and locking fingers. According to Ross, the giving partner lies down, and the receiving partner sits on top of them in the Rider-on-Top position.
Why It's Great: Ross commends this stance because the receiving partner has control over the circumstance.
Modify It: According to Ross, you can crouch down for total control over the inserted length or rest on your knees for deeper penetration.
Are you feeling daring? Include a cock ring in the mix, particularly if it vibrates. According to Ross, "exploding double orgasms could result from the vibrations and additional stimulation of the clitoris."
Standing Wheelbarrow Position
How it Works: According to Lisa Lawless, PhD, CEO of HolisticWisdom.com, one partner does the downward dog yoga pose while the other partner stands at the end of a bed and catches their legs, putting them around their waist.
Why It's Great: Physical agility and endurance are necessary for this sex position.
To maintain the posture, the person at the bottom—the one being penetrated—must have shoulder and core strength. According to Lawless, the Standing Wheelbarrow is a deep thrusting motion that stimulates the G-spot through vaginal penetration. It can also be performed anally to produce an enjoyable sexual encounter. It gives the possibility of powerful prostate orgasms for anal penetration and raises the risk of internal G-spot orgasms for partners with a vagina. Lawless cautions that it might be challenging to sustain this posture, which calls for shoulder flexibility and strength.
Modify It: Lawless advises changing the position by resting your upper body on a table or the side of the bed to relieve pressure on the arms.
Seated Wheelbarrow Position
How It Works: According to Lawless, the Seated Wheelbarrow position can be suitable for people who might have trouble getting on the ground. This one is easiest to begin on a chair or bed with one partner in the Reverse Cowgirl position and the other leaning over the edge. This makes it possible to move into the role gradually and comfortably.
Lawless recommends an alternative strategy in which one couple sits on the edge of a piece of furniture. At the same time, the other partner straddles them, facing front, and slowly lowers their body to the floor for support and balance.
Why It's Great: Lawless thinks the Seated Wheelbarrow can be a fantastic place to start for those who are more physically able. In this role, you gain the advantage of deep penetration; she explains that because it is less physically demanding than the standing wheelbarrow, partners may perform the posture more easily and for more extended periods.
How to Prep for Anal Sex
Try not to put too much strain on each session because every anal effort is unique. Building up the familiarity and comfort required to deal with the rear door takes time.
According to Queen, it will be harder to relax (generally, especially the pubococcygeus, or PC, muscles) if you stand, kneel, or otherwise hold your body against gravity. This even applies to being on one's hands and knees, she continues, even though this is sometimes considered a fundamental posture for anal intercourse.
The following advice can help you get ready for anal:
- Communicate with your partner. Before having any sexual activity, including anal sex, it's crucial to talk to your partner about your goals, worries, and boundaries.
- Use lubrication. Using a water-based or silicone-based lubricant is essential to minimize friction and avoid injury because the anus and rectum do not self-lubricate as the vagina does.
- Start slow. Work your way up to bigger things or penetration by starting with smaller ones, such as a finger or tiny toy. Proceed at a speed that is convenient for both parties.
- Practice good hygiene. Take a shower or bath in advance to ensure that the anus and surrounding area are clean. To lessen the possibility of surprises, you can also think about administering an enema before anal intercourse.
- Use protection. To stop the spread of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), use a condom.
- Relax. To lessen pain or discomfort, the body and the muscles surrounding the anus must relax. To help you relax, practice deep breathing, concentrate on relaxation methods, or have some foreplay.
According to Queen, it's typical for individuals to draw comparisons between anal and penis-in-vagina (PIV) positions while ignoring the part that muscle tone plays in making anal intercourse uncomfortable.
In essence, according to Queen, it may be simpler to reach the degree of relaxation that makes anal intercourse genuinely enjoyable if the receptive partner can relax all of their muscles, not just their pelvic floor.
Conclusion
The more you know: Two excellent resources can assist in making anal sex as safe and enjoyable as possible if you are interested in it or wish to be. Check out Tristan Taormino's "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" and Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian's "The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure."
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