Strap-On Wearing for Cis-Men

You can still have fun with a strap-on even if you arrived with a penis! Hold on tight!

The purpose of this piece was to inspire cis-men to enjoy strap-ons. We acknowledge that not all men have penises, and not all women have them!]

A "strap-on" is precisely what its name suggests: a toy that fastens to the body by strapping it on, typically with a harness around the waist. This enables the user to "strap-on" the majority of their preferred toys. The market for strap-on harnesses and toys, which are highly popular for pegging, is constantly expanding. Fortunately, strap-on gadgets for guys have developed in popularity along with the pegging community.

But Why "for Men?"

Many people may find it strange to consider utilizing strap-ons because many men already have a penis. Why not make use of the tools you already have?

The problem with strap-ons for guys is that they typically provide an alternative to the natural penis. This is due to a variety of factors.

First, the penis might not work as consistently for some people as the couple would like. Ejaculation problems or difficulties obtaining and sustaining an erection could be present. In any case, the couple can concentrate more on the enjoyment and fun of having sex rather than a penis by wearing a strap-on. As a result, there may be less pressure on the pair to enjoy sex. No one "needs" to become challenging to engage in sexual activity. Penetration can continue indefinitely with a strap-on (or, instead, until you reach your cardiac limit).

Second, you can enjoy yourself by avoiding the biological penis. Many kinks entail making fun of or shaming the penis-owner, particularly in kink dynamics when a woman is in authority. It can be entertaining to use a strap-on and vocally reprimand him for not having adequate equipment.

Third, the pair can experiment with different penis sizes by using a strap-on harness for guys. A strap-on dildo can easily provide the smaller (or larger) sensations that the receiving partner needs during insertion. You can request a new penis size!

Additionally, some couples enjoy trying out "new shapes." Over a person's lifespan, the design of a biological penis tends to remain essentially constant. A dildo, though? Wider girths, g-spot curves, shorter lengths, fantasy designs, and more can be used in its place. It can be challenging to play the part of the "evil, mean orc" if your equipment isn't compatible, especially if a couple enjoys fantasy roleplay.

Additionally, a strap-on harness for males offers the added advantage of enjoyment. Specific harnesses have an O-ring for a biological penis and another for a dildo. This enables someone to double-penetrate their lover using both their own penis and a dildo. Without an additional human, it's all the fun of a threesome!

Men might experiment with strap-on harnesses for a variety of reasons. Using strap-on dildos for someone with a penis can be a lot of pleasure, whether it's for medical purposes, pressure relief, fantasy, or just enjoyment!

What's the Difference Between a Penis Extension and a Strap-On for Men?

Penis extensions, hollow strap-on toys with harnesses, and standard dildos with harnesses are the three main types of strap-on toys for men.

A hollow toy called a penis extender is made to be worn on the penis to alter its breadth and length. Very few of these devices have a strap-on harness that fits around the waist, and they are nearly always made to be worn on an erect penis. Most of these devices lack the rigidity necessary to penetrate without an erection inside the sleeve. Sometimes, to help keep the penis extender in place, they have a strap that wraps around the balls, resembling a cock ring. Almost all penis extenders are made to transmit sensation, albeit the degree of sensation varies depending on the manufacturer.

Men's hollow strap-ons are different. These devices typically resemble ordinary dildos rather than penis extenders; however, they are hollow within. These devices use a strap-on harness to anchor onto the body rather than the testicles, as is the case with the penis extenders we just discussed. When combined with the hollow interior chamber, this strap-on harness design is an excellent option for people who don't want to require an erection to use their strap-on toy. Regardless of the hardness of the penis, the strap keeps the toy in place.

The sex toy itself must have hardness built into it to enable penetration, though, because these gadgets don't require an erection to function. They may get somewhat thicker as a result. The receiving partner might find this uncomfortable. However, if the wearer has an erection, a smaller size may become uncomfortably tight. Finding the "right" fit will undoubtedly be the key to this. Furthermore, many hollow strap-on dildos may not give the wearer any sensation due to their stiffness.

Finally, strap-on harnesses with non-hollowed dildos are another choice. The penis cannot slip into a chamber in these dildos. Instead, the biological penis and a regular dildo are strapped onto the body. You may prefer the firmness and "standalone" capability of kits explicitly made for double-penetration activities if you intend to use this dildo for such tasks in the future.

Having a toy in which the biological penis remains exposed and uninvolved can also offer another level of complication to your scenario if you're utilizing your male strap-on for humiliation or power struggles. Among the chastity kinks, using a strap-on harness and a normal dildo is quite popular. The following strap-on harnesses are ideal for penis owners and go well with any classic flared base dildo:

Which version do you prefer? The reason you're using one of these goods will determine this. Are you substituting it for dependable erections? Given that it requires an erection to operate, an extender is probably not the best option for you. Do you want the penis-owner to have sensations even if you're using it to make your penis bigger? It is probably not a good idea to use a normal dildo and male harness. Are you acting out your threesome dreams with it? Since you won't have two dicks to play with, an extender or a hollow strap-on won't work for that. Most likely, you should use the typical male harness and dildo.

How Do I Bring This Up?

It might be frightening to bring up the subject of males wearing strap-ons. Regretfully, guys using strap-ons isn't ubiquitous in our culture—at least not yet! I'm making an effort! A lot of folks haven't even considered it. Furthermore, a man's ego may be somewhat enmeshed in his sexual performance and penis size due to the way many of us are reared, which suggests bringing in a toy that is much more frightening.

In general, I would advise bringing up the topic of utilizing dildos in the bedroom before you ever mention a strap-on. In addition to getting you both used to having sex toys in the bedroom, most of these dildos can be used as strap-on toys in the future if you choose ones with flared bases. The intimacy and closeness of sex that a human being provides cannot be replaced by body-safe sex gadgets, even though you two may grow accustomed to having them in your bedroom.

It could be time to talk about a strap-on harness if dildos are already common in the bedroom. You should be extremely cautious about how you frame this request, regardless of which side of the couple you are on (penetrator or receiver). Instead of concentrating on the drawbacks and everything that it will "fix," think about the advantages and improvements when you play with a strap-on harness.

Therefore, think about saying something like, "I really want to focus on you during sex, and I see that the stress of getting/staying hard is coming between us," rather than, "This will work when your dick doesn't." Can we attempt this so you won't worry about it later?"

Consider this instead of "You cum too fast, and I never get to enjoy sex": "I think this would be an excellent way that we could enjoy more of that." "Having your body pressed against mine during sex feels absolutely amazing." If you don't think the strap-on works, we can remove it anytime."

Try saying, "I want to be ready for you whenever you want me," rather than, "You're always pressuring me to have sex when I'm too tired to get hard, so let's just do this instead." I can ensure you're always happy once we select a shape that works well for you. Would you mind taking the lead after a demanding workday for me?

How Much Sensation Will He Feel?

The biological penis, the sex toy, and the pair will all influence this question. Specific hollow strap-on devices are rigid and hollow. There won't be any sensation for the wearer within the chamber. Additionally, there would be no sensation if you picked up a standalone dildo that functions in a strap-on harness.

The toys that promise sensation—what about those? I wish I could say the answer is simple, but it's not. Every manufacturer will produce an internal chamber of varying dimensions. An extensive range of penis sizes must be accommodated in their chamber. It's challenging to experience the sensation if it's too large. It won't fit if it's too tiny.

The length, firmness, and width of each biological penis that slides inside that toy will vary. The issue is evident here. For Person A, a chamber with just the right amount of tightness will probably be too small for Person B to use. There are numerous factors. It simply depends a lot on anatomy.

Try to see these toys in person before buying them to ease some of that issue (because sex toys cannot be returned). Some of these items might be sold in-store at adult toy stores in the area. To determine if it will fit or how much sensation will transfer through the material, it may be necessary to have a physical "feel" for them. Feel the stiffness. See how much you can feel when you firmly grasp the exterior of the chamber with your fingers after sliding them inside.

Once you've tried out a few hollow dildos, this method is usually excellent, although it really only allows you to make estimates. It soon becomes simpler to distinguish between toys that will offer nothing and those that will. Asking the clerk to open a packed toy so you can feel it is perfectly acceptable. While some merchants will do it, others will not. (Here's another reason you should always clean your toys well when you get them.)

Consider reading evaluations of the sex toy in advance if there isn't a store close by. Check for evaluations that discuss the size of the user's penis or the dimensions of the internal chamber. Ask some support workers if they can provide precise measurements if that doesn't work. Take those measurements and contrast them with the user's penis measurements. It should fit snugly without being too tight. You probably won't be able to enter painlessly if it fits perfectly. With some lubrication, it should be manageable and enjoyable, just slightly bigger than you are.

Pay close attention to the materials in particular. You know how stiff plastic items may be since you have touched them. Any plastic penis extender cannot transmit sensations. Different densities of silicone might result in varying degrees of feeling. Using an extender made of TPR or TPE is the best option to impart the most incredible sensation possible.

Nevertheless, you won't get the same level of sensation as when you're having sex without a toy, regardless of the hollow strap-on you select. Every strap-on male toy has a thick coating of material that is incomparable to a bare penis. Because it prolongs play and delays ejaculation, this diminished sensation is ideal for specific individuals. Others may find that the sensation is insufficient for an orgasm, and play may be necessary either before or after to have fun (if they choose it).

Tips for Using a Strap-On for Men

First of all, you may need to try it a few times, just like with any anatomy-dependent sex toy. Although it's unlikely, it can be incredible to find the "perfect" strap-on the first time. Each toy producer has a slightly different process. Additionally, your body will differ from someone else's. To discover the "right" fit, be prepared to try several other toys.

  The incorrect fit, too? That is a couple of things. Depending on your objectives, the "wrong" fit might not provide any sensation when using the toy. A "wrong" fit may cause the toy to slide off the boy so much that it becomes distracting. During use, the "wrong" fit may feel so tight that it hurts. Your companion may be harmed by the "wrong" fit if it is too big or shaped differently. Examine a fresh penis extender possibility if those items are happening.

The second piece of advice is that most men's strap-on gadgets are made to be used with lubrication. The toy will determine how much lubricant is used and where it is applied. For instance, you'll need a little lubrication to get your penis into a penis extender, which lies on your erection to hold it in place. Excessive use could cause the extender to come loose. Remember to lubricate the toy's outside as well! Many materials don't feel like human flesh, and others can be more "grippy" against the skin. Therefore, even though your partner's natural lubricant is typically plenty for regular penetration, it may not be sufficient for the toy. Before slipping the device into your partner, apply additional lube along the toy's shaft.

The third piece of advice is to proceed cautiously with the penetration itself. The majority of these gadgets will have a different form from your natural penis. Some might be more curved, thicker, or longer. This implies that during sexual activity, it will feel completely different. These greater or novel sensations may need a slower initial entrance to prevent harming your spouse.

After that, you must try different things and see what suits you! You may fall in love with your following hollow strap-on item after your first penis extender fails. It might be worth it for you to use it in your first threesome roleplay! In any event, remember to have fun, enjoy the experiments, and enjoy the adventure!