ROCK, PAPER, SCISSOR ME: A BEGINNER'S GUIDE TO SCISSORING
Break off connections with dull sexual postures! How to maximize this exciting sex position is revealed in this beginner's guide to scissor sex.
What is Scissoring?
To promote genital-to-genital contact, two persons spread their legs out like a pair of open scissors in a sex position known as "scissoring." People of all genders can enjoy and engage in scissoring, even though it is frequently depicted as a queer sex position.
Scissoring vs. Tribbing
Rubbing one's vulva on one's partner's genitalia to excite oneself externally is known as "tribbing." It is seen as an outercourse activity that typically takes place between lesbian couples.
Despite being classified as a type of tribadism, the term "scissoring" can refer to sexual encounters between individuals of either gender. Although scissoring is undoubtedly one of the most recognizable tribbing stances ever, it does not fully represent the range of tribbing variations. While "scissoring" refers to a particular sex position, "tribbing" generally refers to several outercourse methods.
- Genital-to-genital contact is not necessarily implied by dribbling. It is possible to conduct trips on several body areas, such as a partner's bottom, stomach, or thighs.
- Sex toys may or may not be used in dribbling.
- The missionary position, seated lotus posture, and doggy position are common positions for this outercourse technique.
Do Lesbians Enjoy Scissoring?
A fundamental component of lesbian pornography, scissors have shaped the public's understanding of what lesbian sex looks and entails. According to some lesbian women, these movies might lead to inaccurate depictions of female pleasure, which is why they have been criticized. Moreover, scissoring—slicing one's genitalia against another's—is a crass misrepresentation and oversimplification of lesbian sex.
Nevertheless, a lot of people like scissor sex and actively engage in it, especially lesbian women. This sex position could be appealing to those who like grinding, manual stimulation, and full-body contact.
Although there isn't much scientific research on the subject, Julia V. Bailey's 2003 study, "Sexual Behavior of Lesbians and Bisexual Women," found that 50% of the study sample engaged in genital-to-genital specific tribadism and 85% of the study group involved in tribadism overall. This shows that tribbing is still an essential part of many lesbians' sex life, even though there is some resistance to accepting the way scissoring is portrayed in the media.
The Best Positions for Scissoring
We discovered in our Grinding 101 article that sex postures, such as scissoring, can cause strain on the hips, thighs, and knees. These kinds of sex positions might not be the most practical or pleasant choice for certain people. Stretching before sex, trying out various scissoring forms, and utilizing sex cushions to provide support or comfort are all options if you and your partner are interested in scissor sex.
Lay on your side with your legs extended wide to assume this position. Ask a companion to strike the same stance but with their back to you. Once both of you are in this position, you can slide down the middle until your genitalia connect by tying your legs together.
Safety Scissors
For penetrative sex, the safety scissor position is a great option. With their leg resting against their partner's shoulder, one person can either lie on their back or hold themselves up with a pillow in this posture. We adore the added stability of the safety scissor position, which enables partners to grip one other's ankles or thighs for more force when grinding.
Zig Zag Scissors
This sex position, which was inspired by the traditional scissor form, places the torso against a partner's thigh instead of their genitalia. Rocking, vibration (shaking), and pressure can all be produced with your thigh.
How to Scissor Your Partner
The ability to modify this position to fit various gadgets, body parts, and kinks is one of the great things about scissor sex. This increases the possibilities for enjoyment in this sex position! With or without clothes, penetration, or sex toys, there are countless ways to have scissor sex! Here are a few of our top picks for improving scissor sex:
- Lube
Not all lubricants are used for penetrative sex. For activities like massages, nipple play, and tribbing, lubricant can be used to create a smooth glide on the skin.
- Eye Contact & Make Out Sessions
Because it calls for partners to bring their bodies as close together as possible, scissors sex may be highly personal. This can lead to many excellent chances to strengthen your bond by kissing and making long-term eye contact.
- Double Ended Dildos
Since double-ended dildos are frequently featured in pornographic scissor sex movies, it makes sense that many people have tried to use them in their sexual encounters. A double-ended dildo can be used to stimulate two partners in a scissoring sex position either anally or vaginally.
- Remote Control Sex Toys
Enhancing scissor sex can be achieved with long-distance and Bluetooth sex devices. While you grind, your companion can remotely operate these wearable and insertable devices.
- Strap-On Harnesses or Penetration
Although penetration is not necessary for scissor sex, it is now a standard method to improve it. For this type of play, those who have vulvas or are interested in double penetration should think about using a strap-on harness and dildo.
- Finger Stimulation
You can stimulate your spouse externally or pierce their genitalia with your fingertips. Anal and vaginal finger play are prevalent methods to add some spice to this position!
