Head Scissors

The head scissors position, often known as the head scissors hold, involves squeezing a partner's knees together while clasping their head between their thighs. The phrase first appeared in the context of mixed martial arts and wrestling, where a fighter would defeat an opponent by squeezing their head between their legs. Nonetheless, some people find this method enjoyable when engaging in sexual activity. Head scissors can be used in this situation by a providing spouse to delight, discipline, or otherwise control their receiving partner.

Because its name is related to the term scissoring, which refers to a sex act carried out by people with vulvas, head scissors are typically associated with domineering women. Nonetheless, head scissors can be given by dominant individuals of any gender identification.

How to perform head scissors

To get ready for head scissors, the receiving partner may lie down. The donating partner might take a seat close to the recipient's head. From here, they can straddle the head and give it a firm squeeze. The receiver's head is compressed by the giver's thighs, which also limits their range of motion. By using their core and modifying their body's angle to suit their comfort level, the giver can keep their balance. In order to improve the security of the head scissors, they would also bind their ankles together.

As an alternative, the provider could lie on top of the receiver, genitals facing their partner's face and head facing the other way. They can execute head scissors and squeeze their legs together from this position. In this position, the providing partner can simultaneously perform a hand job or oral sex on the recipient. Because the provider may support their entire weight on the recipient's body, it's also a little simpler.

The receiver is on all fours in another option. In order to sexily crush their partner's head between their thighs, the giver can then perch on their shoulders or upper back and straddle their partner's neck. The sender must carefully balance the recipient in order to choose this alternative, which is the most difficult. To keep themself steady, the giver could put their hands on their partner's back.

Why do some people like head scissors

An interest in head scissors "often comes from a desire to be dominated, or a desire to be dominant, if you're the partner performing the scissors," Vicki Lyons, chief editor at Bodyjoys and sexual wellness specialist, told Kinkly.

For BDSM relationships or anybody wishing to investigate power exchange, the providing partner's dominating stance is perfect. People who are interested in feminine dominance, or femdom, may find it appealing because the giving partner is typically a woman. A head scissors hold is a delicate FemDom technique that can demonstrate authority without causing discomfort. For someone who wants to be female dominant, trying head scissors might be a fantastic method to discover their FemDom identity.

Given that their partner has total control over their motions receiving partners could relish feeling powerless between their thighs. Being physically squeezed by a partner's body can also be a delightful experience.

"Being pinned between the thighs, an erogenous zone, makes head scissoring pretty easy to understand," Emile Witt-Eden, a sex expert and former dominatrix with professional head scissoring experience, told Kinkly. It's about the sensation of having one's head or neck pressed between perspiring legs. It's about the visceral feeling of one's neck or head being surrounded by tight leg muscles. A connected kink, of course, is for muscles. The male who enjoys powerful, muscular women who can take them down if she so desires will find this kink attractive because of all these factors.

Additionally, the receiver's proximity to the giver's genitalia or anus may arouse them. "It involves being tortured while being 'forced' (consensually) to gratify one's dominant during head-scissoring." Alternatively, it's about denial and teasing: about being near enough to smell the genitalia yet too far enough to taste or enjoy them. It's about this experience while stuck in one spot. "Witt-Eden said."

Some submissives, in my opinion, even fantasize about dying in such a situation. The concept that a woman could kill herself if she so desired while viciously gripping them between her thighs is a dream that some men enjoy discussing, she continued. I realize this sounds strange and morbid. "Clearly, the kink is about being afraid. It has to do with control and terror, which many people like to incorporate in some capacity into their sexual lives. Fear and feeling overwhelmed (out of control) are two feelings that produce adrenaline, which can be thrilling during intercourse and/or even cause arousal.

Dr. Farhan Malik, MD, told Kinkly that giving head scissors may be a tremendous turn-on for persons who enjoy controlling their partners, especially women.

They can take control of the interaction and exert dominance by putting their thighs around their partner's head. It can be exciting and freeing to see this reversal of conventional gender norms. Maintaining the grasp and controlling pressure are physical challenges that some people find enjoyable.

Because their spouses adore getting head scissors, some people also like giving them. It might be stimulating for the provider to witness how much this act turns on a receiving partner.

Head Scissors: Fetish or Kink?

Some people believe they have a head scissors kink or fetish. Since it's uncommon for people to need head scissors for sexual enjoyment, a kink is more plausible. Anecdotal data indicates that males who receive head scissors are more likely than dominant partners to have head scissors kink or desire.

Witt-Eden continued, "I have primarily witnessed men being head-scissored." Some of the movies I've seen with this kink are also FemDom, which may be the case because I used to work as a pro-domme serving primarily male clients, but This kink is, in my opinion, reasonably prevalent. I've encountered this desire frequently in my work, though it's not as widespread as having a foot fetish in and of itself.

According to Witt-Eden, this sexual interest may also coexist with other quirks.

A guy who has a head-scissoring kink typically has a wrestling kink overall. Being overwhelmed by a woman is a fetish. I've encountered males who want to "play wrestle" (the man agrees to wrestle without utilizing his full strength) and men who want to be overcome by a woman. However, some men only like to play with women who can genuinely overpower them and are bodybuilders. Some males who have this fetish imagine that the woman will actually hurt them.

"I wouldn't say that head scissors fetishism is abnormal in the context of human sexuality, but it is definitely less common than many other kinks or philias," Dr. Malik continued. Only a small number of patients in my clinical practice have shown a particular fascination with head scissors. Frequently, the urge is more motivated by an attraction to the athleticism and strength needed to carry out the act than by a need to cause pain or dominance. The sensation of vulnerability and loss of control that comes with being trapped between a woman's thighs can have an erotic charge. In contrast to more mainstream pastimes like roleplaying or bondage, which have profited from more excellent knowledge and de-stigmatization in recent years, this kink is still very uncommon.

Safety and consent during head scissors

Because head scissoring does not entail the exchange of bodily fluids, it is regarded as a somewhat safe sexual behavior. But if practitioners are careless, it can be harmful.

"The neck is a very sensitive area, and improper or excessive pressure can cause harm or even death," Dr. Malik affirmed. Compression of the jugular veins and common carotid arteries, which run on either side of the neck, deprives the brain of oxygen. This is why, despite breath play's continued rise in popularity due to media influence, strangling and choking remain among the most harmful sexual activities.

"It is a really dangerous activity, even though some people actually enjoy being 'choked out' during sex, which means having their air supply cut off until they actually go unconscious," Eden-Witt said. "I wouldn't advise having this done to you or doing it to someone else."

"Reports of blood vessels bursting in the eyes have also been made," Lyons continued. "Over time, this can heal itself, but it's still not the best result."

"Getting the partner underneath to raise their hand when they've reached a limit is a good way to set boundaries, making sure the practice stops as soon as there's any unwanted discomfort," Lyons continued. "During this kind of play, always make sure that the hands are free to move so that the submissive person can alert the dominant if things are becoming too intense."

According to Dr. Malik, giving partners should also think about their technique and keep an eye on the recipient of the head scissors to make sure they're safe. Avoid using prolonged crushing force, and communicate with your partner on a regular basis. Instead of applying more pressure, err on the side of less. Be completely conscious and sober. Additionally, understand that no sexual activity is worth risking your life for. Intimacy can be enjoyed in a variety of other ways without the same hazards. When in doubt, protect one another.

Any sexual act, but particularly those that involve a power exchange, such as head scissors, requires consent. Before proceeding, a couple should talk about their interest in head scissors and make sure all parties are on board.

They should also discuss any worries or traumatic experiences that would make it challenging to enjoy head scissors.

According to Lyons, "the practice could create some anxiety if the partner being squeezed has issues with breathing or small spaces, which is the opposite of what you're wanting to achieve."

Witt-Eden advises partners to talk about any health concerns.

"It's not a good idea to engage in serious head scissoring if you have heart problems or high blood pressure," she said.

Couples can play head scissors safely by agreeing on a safe phrase and a safe action, like raising a hand, that the receiver can use to cease play if the giver's thighs make speaking impossible.