What is Orgasm Control? Orgasm Denial vs. Forced Orgasms
What is Orgasm Play?
Taking control of how, when, and whether an orgasm occurs during intimate play is known as orgasm play (or control).
Although orgasm control—also known as "edging," "peaking," or "surfing"—can be investigated during solo masturbation, it is frequently employed as a means of submission in BDSM and power play situations.
"Orgasm Denial" and "Forced Orgasms" are the two primary categories of orgasm control that typically occur during couples' play.
Uncertain of what that implies?
Continue reading to learn what they mean, why, and how you should try it.
Why Do People Do It?
Power sharing is very popular.
Apart from the fact that power play necessitates total trust from both parties, it also provides a healthy escape and a chance to discover more about your partner or partners.
When handled responsibly, power play in a relationship can lead to increased intimacy, trust, and open communication over time, as well as, of course, a fantastic sex life!
Tell Me More...
As previously stated, orgasm play can be explored in a variety of ways, both by yourself and with a fondle friend. However, it is particularly prevalent in BDSM and power play.
"Orgasm Denial" and "Forced Orgasms" are two of the most often used techniques in BDSM for experimenting with orgasm play.
However, what do these phrases actually mean?
Orgasm Denial:
- Definition (noun): A sexual practice that involves maintaining a person's sexual arousal for a long time without causing an orgasm.
- The dominant partner keeps the subordinate partner on the verge of an orgasm during play. The Dom stops all stimulation to "bring them back down to Earth" as the sub approaches the point of no return.
- To keep the sub from climaxing again before permitting them to release, the Dom may repeat this cycle numerous times throughout a single session.
- Some subs will be allowed to climax at the same play session or when their safe word is used, depending on how complex the play is. In contrast, other scenarios may go on for days or more without allowing the sub to resolve.
- Benefits: An enormous amount of sexual tension is created when anticipation and denial are used in this way, and when it is ultimately released, it is frequently explosive and incredibly pleasurable.
- Orgasm control and erotic sexual denial are synonyms.
Forced Orgasms:
- Definition (noun): A type of sex play in which a submissive partner is sexually stimulated to the point of involuntary orgasm by the dominant or active partner.
- The submissive partner is typically constrained during this type of activity and should concentrate on avoiding climax.
- Both voyeuristic scenes and humiliation plays can incorporate forced orgasm play.
- A Dom may make their sub climax more than once during a single play session if the submissive partner is multi-orgasmic (and you accept several forced climaxes).
- There will only be one forced climax in other situations where the sub is not multi-orgasmic.
- Benefits: Each orgasm gets increasingly more intense than the one before, especially in scenarios with many orgasms. This can lead to full-bodied, loud climaxes that are as exciting to see as they are to experience.
- Orgasm Control and Post-Orgasm Torture are synonyms.
Aftercare
Keep in mind that aftercare is crucial if you and your partner choose to attempt forced orgasm play or orgasm denial.
Elevated emotions can result from any BDSM play, and it's typical for the sub to experience emotional overload following a vigorous play session.
These feelings can be anything from intense joy to calmness, doubt, or even a few tears.
After play, take a minute to reassure your partner (if there is any doubt) and give them the space to regain equilibrium. This is known as proper aftercare.
Now is the ideal moment to enjoy a hot bath or shower, speak through the session, or cuddle and touch. Anything that makes you both feel satisfied after the game is over.
