Help! My Partner Is Into Ageplay!

Ageplay requires communication and a sense of boundaries, just like any other kink.

You were likely somewhat perplexed when your significant other admitted to being interested in ageplay. What exactly is this fascination about? What is it about? What does participating mean if you want to win your spouse over?

One of the most significant benefits of the internet's creation is the capacity for people to communicate with one another, even if it is well known for being the driving force behind many changes. It opened up sexual communities in addition to groups of people with different interests. People could now readily find others who shared their fetishes rather than feeling strange because they had a special kink. Since hundreds of others shared their interests, people no longer needed to feel "alone" about what they enjoyed!

Today, you can learn more about your partner's kink thanks to the internet, which is barely news anymore. Here, we examine ageplay and try to address some of the most essential queries surrounding this particular fetish.

What is ageplay?

The concept of ageplay involves pretending to be someone older than you are in real life. Many players prefer to choose a position in the younger age range—such as a baby, toddler, younger kid, or teenager. An individual's preferred age will be specific to themselves.

Drinking from bottles, wearing frilly or printed clothes, diapering, spanking, playing with toys, cuddling with a partner, and other activities typically associated with childhood are all examples of ageplay activities, though they are not required. The age and preferences of the individual will determine the specific activities. Have a conversation with your spouse about this fetish to find out what interests them. Pose inquiries. The best thing you can do... for both of you... is to open the doors of communication.

Why do people enjoy ageplay?

Playing at a different age enables someone to appreciate the simpler, easier life that came with that younger age rather than worrying about all the responsibilities of adulthood. Combined with other relaxation techniques (such as yoga, meditation, adult coloring, and the like), ageplay provides a simple means of escaping the stresses of adulthood.

Individual motivations for enjoying ageplay differ from person to person, aside from the relaxation experience. It's worthwhile to find out why your significant other likes it.

Are there terms I should know?

Caregiver/Babysitter/Big/Mommy/Daddy: The person in command is typically described using these terms. You can choose any term you feel most comfortable using to identify.

Little/Babygirl/Babyboy: These phrases typically indicate the player in every situation.

Middle: Selecting a part to play between the ages of one and ten is the most popular age play. In particular, "middles" identify as such because they want to pretend to be older than ten.

Regression: This refers to regressing to a younger age. Regression at more profound and more severe levels frequently takes longer to "come back to reality." When scheduling your playtime, be careful to account for this.

Adult Baby/Diaper Lover (ABDL): This phrase typically refers to diaper wearing and play. If someone identifies as an ABDL, it means they enjoy diaper wearing or some form of ageplay. But not every ageplay enthusiast desires to wear a diaper.

Is ageplay about kids?

Hearing the term "ageplay" can immediately conjure up images of children for many people who are not familiar with the kink. However, this couldn't be more untrue for those engaging in ageplay! Allow your thoughts to stray in another direction rather than that one. Think about how simple you were as a kid. Consider how carefree and simple your life was when you only had to worry about what to watch on TV, what snacks were available, and which toy to play with.

Many players are attempting to capture that purity and simplicity. Through this kind of role-play, the player can return to a simpler, easier mental place, comparable to "pet play" (which entails role-playing an animal). Age players embrace a more straightforward approach rather than caring about the burdens of life, the expenses, or appearance. Role-playing and regressing can become an age player's method of reducing stress, much like engaging in enjoyable activities does. It has nothing to do with other people.

Why types of ageplay are out there?

To keep things simple, you can suppose that there are two kinds of ageplay: non-sexual and sexual.

Players who are not sexually inclined enjoy regression for its purpose and do not perceive it as a sexual experience. Compared to sexual players, non-sexual players may need more hands-on "care" and prefer to go further into regression. To fully immerse themselves in the authentic experience of their younger selves, non-sexual players seek out authentic regressive experiences.

Role-playing is enjoyable to sexual-age players. This is because the role-play situation involves intimacy and trust, and many sexual players feel cared for. An orgasm and sexual touches are likely to be enjoyed during the action by those who appreciate the sexual aspects of playing.

While many non-sexual players may view ageplay as an integral part of their identity or way of life, sexual players frequently view their enjoyment of it as a "fetish" or "kink."

What do I need to know if my partner is into ageplay?

You and your partner should sit down and discuss now that you have some basic knowledge about ageplay and what it involves. Your partner's preferences for age play should be a serious topic of communication. After all, you need to know what your spouse finds enjoyable about it if you want to assist them in realizing their fantasies.

Find out if they consider playing to be sexual or not. Inquire about how "old" their role-playing character is. Please find out how they envision being cared for by their caregiver. Please inquire about the activities they prefer to engage in while role-playing. Above all, could you find out how they feel about playing? This desire might become taboo for many ageplay enthusiasts afraid of rejection. Make an effort to be as tolerant as you can. Remember that your partner trusts you enough to show you this new side of themselves.

Don't be scared to express your personal preferences! Any relationship requires compromise, and your spouse is probably already quite pleased that you agreed to attempt this in the first place. You don't have to agree to something that makes you uncomfortable. Consider offering a compromise if they ask you to do something that makes you uncomfortable, such as "I'd be fine changing your diaper in a clean one, but I'm not comfortable changing a used one." Before we play, could you show me how to do that? As you both experiment, you should anticipate that your tastes and comfort levels will shift, but it's common to want to begin with basic, easier chores.

How can I try being a caregiver for my age-playing partner?

You're in luck because ageplay is quite simple to attempt. Ageplay is about establishing a stress-free environment with many kid-friendly toys, whether you're playing with the caregiver or the little one. Establish a time limit for your play session to give yourself some mental space. Decide, for instance, that you and your partner will spend the hours between 1 and 5 p.m. exploring their small side, and then you will ask them to return to adulthood. That's it!

Oh? Do you want more inspiration? To keep your playing partner amused, think about using some of these easy props and ideas:

• As you read a children's book to your companion, allow them to crawl across your lap. Remember to slow down the speed and change your voice to fit the various personas. Ask them basic questions about the book's characters to earn extra points.
• Invest in some baby food or applesauce. Spoon spoonfuls of the food onto your partner while they sit at the kitchen table. Put your partner's hands in heavy mittens for extra points so they can't assist.
• Remember, there are many entertaining ways to make meals "child-friendly." Make a lovely shape out of a sandwich. Consume "children's" fare, such as basic sandwiches or chicken nuggets. Use a plate with integrated divisions. Before your companion leaves the table, insist that they finish their vegetables.
• One straightforward approach to enjoy your partner's ageplay regression is with coloring books. Adults enjoy coloring as well! With your partner, color some of your favorite pages using a set of crayons or colored pencils.
• If the weather is warmer, consider getting a few containers of bubbles and bubble wands. When you blow bubbles, you can't help but feel like a kid, even as an adult. For extra credit, consider purchasing some inexpensive outdoor games and sidewalk chalk to make it an enjoyable afternoon outside.
• Your companion should be put "to bed" for a nap. As soon as they're in bed, curl up with them and give them a tender pat or stroke. Both parties may find this to be an intimate experience.
• Remember that corner time. You can "force" your partner to stand and face a corner as a straightforward discipline to make them apologize for some of their misconduct. Keep an eye on them for extra credit, and don't hesitate to reprimand them severely if they wriggle or move excessively.

Where can I find more information?

Although this article briefly overviews ageplay, you should read more to understand it better. The books "The Big Book for Littles" by Penny Barber, "There's Still a Baby in My Bed!" by Rosalie Bent, and "There's a Baby in My Bed" by Rosalie Bent are all excellent choices.