How-to Guide: Sexting Tips & Etiquette

Whatever you call it, sexting, emailing nude photos, or having sex online, it's a lot of fun. There are numerous methods to engage in virtual sex, ranging from uploading suggestive movies to sending flirtatious texts. So, how can one sext with confidence and safety?

Steph, a specialist at Adutoys, walks us through the proper and improper ways to send nude photos and sext.

What is sexting?

Let's begin with the fundamentals. We have everything you need if you're new to sexting or wondering why people do it.

Sexting is just what it sounds like: a mashup of the terms "texting" and "sex." In order to simulate sex online frequently entails sending and receiving risqué texts or sexy images.

Sexting is a fantastic opportunity to connect with a partner, explore fantasy, and explore desire—it's not just about getting off. Starting outside the bedroom, this type of foreplay helps develop a sexual desire for when you and your lover are together again.

Sexting etiquette

Since we're discussing internet sex, it's common to be unsure about how to proceed. We've developed some tips to help you avoid unintentionally ignoring boundaries or going too far when speaking on social media. Our top six etiquette guidelines for sending nude photos and sexting are as follows:

1. Get consent

Consent is still crucial, even if it takes place online. Setting limits on social media and texting can be challenging, so when you're trying to spice up a conversation, go out of your way to make sure you're not going overboard. To acquire your partner's consent in a sexy manner, try asking them the following questions:

• "I'm thinking about last night all the time. Would you like to know what's on my mind?"
• "Can I send you a picture of myself right now? I'm feeling very myself."
• "Want to watch me get in the shower?"

2. Get context

Ensuring the timing is appropriate is part of obtaining consent. When communicating with someone online, it might be challenging to keep tabs on their activities. You don't want your partner's mother or boss to read your sultry messages. Please inquire as to whether your significant other is in private or, at the very least, not in an area where their phone is visible to others. There's nothing worse than having your sexy sexting session cut short by housemates or to-do lists, so make sure you're in the right frame of mind to commit to the conversation.

3. Don't take screenshots

One of the biggest obstacles to transmitting nude images is the worry that they would be screenshotted. Never record your screen or take screenshots without first getting permission! Ask your spouse what their boundaries are (and make yours extremely clear) and see if they mind if you keep the picture in your camera roll. Remember the golden rule when it comes to preserving someone's nude photos: remove them as soon as you've broken up or they're no longer in your life.

4. Keep it to yourself

In keeping with screenshots, a frequent worry is that private images will be shared without permission. It should go without saying that you should only view sensual photographs and filthy texts. Your lover has permitted you to view their naked photos—and only you. It's against the law to show it to the person next to you, and you should definitely not send it to other people by messaging.

5. Ease into it

Really, nobody enjoys a straight-up dick picture. Light flirtation should come before intense erotic stories, and sexting should begin with words before pictures. To create the tone, start with a lighthearted remark or a flashback. Send some risqué emoticons to keep the thoughts moving if it seems more subdued.

6. Finish it properly

Everyone has experienced someone going into ghost mode right after finishing; avoid becoming that person. Tell your lover if you've already experienced an orgasm or if you're simply over it instead of reading or opening their messages. It's enough to say, "This has been really hot, but I'm tired and going to bed now." Don't abandon your significant other!

Tips for sexting & sending nudes

The guidelines are now complete, so let's get to the exciting part. Our best advice for sending nude photos and sexting is as follows:

1. Get in the mood

If you don't feel sexy, you can't show someone how sexy you are. Confidence is the most attractive quality! Put on sensual clothing or play some music, then engage in some foreplay with yourself because no one else will. Sending nude photos or sexting should only be done when you're really in the mood!

2. Build anticipation

This brings us full round to our etiquette "ease into it" point. The tease is what makes sexting so beautiful! Start dressed entirely if you're sending nudity, or perhaps change into an opulent robe before revealing just your underwear. Instead of sending anything too explicit out of the blue, send it slowly and gently if you're sending a nasty text. Go into the specifics and build a crescendo because sexting is essentially telling your lover a narrative or fantasy.

3. Share your desires

Sharing the things you've wanted to explore in the bedroom but have been too afraid to ask for is possible with sexting. By clearly communicating your desires to your partner, you can enhance your in-person sex life. Here, you can also draw inspiration from your own sexual experiences. Everyone has experienced sexual flashbacks; talk about them! "I can't stop thinking about the time we did it in the kitchen" or "I'm in the mood to do what we did last night again" can make a big difference.

4. Get creative

Not all nudity is about genitalia, boobs, and buttocks. Images or movies of lips, fingers, lower backs, legs, and other body parts can be highly erotic and suggestive. Experiment with different cameras, stances, lighting, and angles. You might even attempt to record a movie and take a snapshot of your ideal appearance! Additionally, remember to use accessories, such as sex toys or a full-length mirror. Why not switch to FaceTime sex or send a voice note if you're feeling up to it? Create some sensual fiction using your imagination if you're sticking to sexy conversation sans pictures.

5. Be specific

There are many tasty details in good sexting. Give your partner all the details, including what you're wearing, what's on your mind, where you feel good about your body, what you're desiring, etc. You or your spouse are more likely to find an actual turn-on if you are more specific.

6. Don't overthink it

Let's face it: there are moments when we shudder at the foul talk. We encourage you to make every effort to overcome any feelings of guilt or embarrassment related to sexting. Don't worry so much about your speech or your behaviour; speak what you want to say and move in a shame-free, natural way! It's harmless fun as long as you read the room, trust the person you're sexting, and feel confident.

7. Double-check that send button

Nothing is worse than an unintentional naked photo posted on Instagram or in the family group chat. Although we understand that you're impatient, hot, and heavy, we strongly advise spending the extra time to ensure that the person you're sexting is the appropriate one. (The unsend button is a blessing.)

8. Prioritise aftercare!

As previously stated, bring the topic to a close with your companion. Then look for yourself! You might be feeling extremely vulnerable now that you're alone yourself, or you might be feeling exceptionally sexually aroused and ready for the best solo sex of your life. To properly end the sexting session, write down your sentiments, send your sweetheart a cute, cuddly selfie, or have another orgasm.