Brat

The BDSM role of a submissive or bottom who consistently acts and speaks in a defiant, disobedient manner toward their dominant is known as "brat. "To get their top to discipline them, a brat will act out, talk back, and be stubborn. They will finally give in to their dominant's demands in order to feel satisfied.

Brats are driven by a variety of factors, such as the need for punishment, attention, and the development of trust with their dominant. As a result, a brat-tamer is another term for a brat's dominating.

What does being a brat look like in a BDSM scene?

Disobedience for a brat might manifest as snide or sultry responses, yelling commands, attempting to get out from under, or avoiding physical contact. In many other ways, the brat position functions as a traditional submissive role, and the demeanor is usually playful and jovial rather than harsh or vicious. However, the dynamics of the dominant-submissive relationship may determine that.

"A brat is a submissive who likes to challenge their dominant's rules and regulations," says Philadelphia-based Dominatrix Mistress Mona. "I have several brats in my life. A brat with whom I played was very much thinking, "Oh, you're going to make me do that?" incredibly snarky, relishing the power struggle that comes with being subservient while defying the law and drawing attention to oneself.

The most popular tactic used by brats to encourage their brat-tamers is to cast doubt on their capacity for true taming. Brats push their dominants to respond to threats in ways that will genuinely make the submissive happy, even if they claim that they won't. It is the intention of phrases like "Is that the best you've got?" "You're going to have to gag/bind/blindfold me to get your way!" and "You don't scare me!" to encourage the tamer to take further action. In a successful brat/tamer dynamic, both people will enjoy their positions and the ongoing exchanges.

A brat can be anyone, regardless of gender or sexual orientation, and brat roleplay can occur in any relationship. However, it is most commonly linked to women in partnerships with male dominants. The brat role complements sadists and owners who are dominants.

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To introduce the concept into a relationship, communication is essential, just like in other roles across the BDSM spectrum. It is best to discuss the desire to control or be a brat in a non-sexual context first.

How can I play the brat in a kinky scene safely?

There should be a conversation between the brat and the dominant or brat tamer if you or someone you know wants to learn more about what it's like to be a brat. Similar to a kink contract, this could specify both soft and rigid boundaries as well as acceptable language and forms of discipline. The following are some examples of punishments for brats: spankings, forced orgasms, bondage, humiliation, tickling, and orgasm denial.

When a partner isn't ready to entertain the concept of roleplaying, bringing up the thought of playing the brat during a sexual encounter can place unnecessary pressure on them. Discussing these wants at a later time can not only help everyone grasp the expectations and the desire, but it may also spark excitement and serve as a form of foreplay if everyone gets along.

Every participant will enjoy the play that precedes the physical action just as much as they will the final physical action. The tamer will know how much to deny the brat before finally enforcing discipline since the brat will know just what buttons to push.

Being a brat doesn't have to be a transient or exclusively sexual role. Those who exhibit a constant dominant/submissive dynamic may extend the brat/tamer role to other facets of a relationship. Beyond what is agreed upon, being a brat has no particular restrictions; it can be interpreted as lightly or seriously as one wishes and can even change over time.