Where and how can I train as a submissive?

This question gets me thinking about the concept of a "School for Submissives." What would that look like? Undoubtedly, many BDSM novels address this issue. The idea of a structured training school for submissives has become so prevalent that it is practically a cliché, appearing in everything from hotels to castle dungeons. Perhaps the most well-known fictional submissive training school is The Story of O's Château of Roissy. Sadly, it is a work of fiction. To the best of my knowledge, there isn't anything comparable, except the odd BDSM/Fet club that likes to think of itself as a "School for submissives." But there are alternative methods to get formal training, so don't give up. Here are some recommendations I have:

1. Get educated. Understanding who you are and what makes you feel good or bad is part of this. You will encounter things you have never experienced, but does the thought of them make you feel hot and anxious or cold? You have a better chance of finding a spouse or partners who can satisfy your wants if you are more aware of what makes you happy. Although a wealth of knowledge is available online, Submissive Guide might be a good place to start. It contains a great deal of in-depth writing about the submission topic. Additionally, see which submissive bloggers on Kinkly.com interest you by looking through their blogger list.

2. Engage in conversation. Speak with switches, Dom's subs, and other scene participants. Please pay attention to their ideas and experiences. It will make you more aware of the wide range of human sexuality that kink encompasses. Learn from others how they manage their relationships. This will assist you in determining what kind of Dom/Sub relationship would be most suitable for you.

3. Enter the neighborhood. This is where you can meet folks to chat with and form friendships. Joining a community will help you meet other kinky people and provide you with access to knowledge. You will benefit significantly from having a supportive network of pals.

4. Look for a mentor. A mentor should be able to assist you with the above tasks. Many people think that you should only have one mentor and that they should be in the same D/s as you. That isn't necessarily something I agree with. Many people possess a wide range of knowledge. Why limit yourself to learning from a single person? Although having a mentor who shares your kink status might be beneficial, I firmly feel that the best mentors are those with whom you truly click, regardless of their gender or D/S status. A man, Dominant, who lived on the opposite side of the world, was my only mentor. That one person taught me more than anybody else about D/s, kink, my submission, and the kind of Dominant I wanted to be with.

5. Choose the appropriate Dominant. With all the information above, you have a much higher chance of correctly completing this crucial last step. Finding a partner who understands you and your submission style is the secret to everything. You can learn, experiment, and develop as a submissive with this person or people. Make sure they're right for you by taking your time. If a domly type 'demands' your submission, don't comply. They must earn your obedience, just as you must earn their supremacy.

Being 'a good submissive' is only possible if you are submitting to someone compatible with your submission style. My Dom is the correct Dom for me, and I am the right sub for him. Our specific idiosyncrasies complement one another; therefore, we function well together. I'm not a submissive housewife. I do not want to wait for orders while kneeling silently in a corner. I am prone to becoming feisty and difficult. There are plenty of Doms out there who would find my style of submission inappropriate. Many people would undoubtedly accuse me of "not being a true/real submissive." They would also be mistaken about that. Even though I don't meet their specific needs, I am still a submissive.

For instance, training under a Dom who enjoys having their subs kiss their feet is pointless if that behavior is on your strict list of prohibited behaviors. Finding the proper partner to share your submission with, explore, and grow with largely depends on knowing yourself.