The Art of the Handjob

It's time to reclaim the handjob!

By concentrating pleasure on your partner, handjobs can help them relax and enjoy an orgasm. Any sexual orientation, gender, or partnership can benefit from them. Learning more about your partner and observing their body language and physical reactions are essential to mastering the art of a good handjob.

First, discuss with your spouse how they enjoy utilizing their hands and fingers for pleasure. Better still, see them enjoy themselves first. Please pay attention to how quickly and forcefully they move and how that could alter as they enjoy themselves. Observe their body language and the parts of their body that move while they masturbate. When they enjoy themselves, do they enjoy thrusting their pelvis? Perhaps extend their legs? Could you give them a chest rub? Be careful not to limit these body areas while doing the intended handjob. You can also learn from your masturbation skills if your companion shares your physique.

Wash your hands before doing some magic between your partner's thighs! An antibacterial soap will remove any undesirable bacteria and help stop infections, PH imbalances, and the growth of bacteria, especially in delicate bodies. Leverage and a wide range of motion are essential for a successful handjob. Ensure that both of you are at ease. Have them sit at the edge of the bed while you kneel on the floor, or try sitting cross-legged or between their legs.

Your friend is Lube! Enhancing sexual pleasure during a handjob can be achieved by using a body-friendly lubricant. The best lubricant is smooth silicone, such as Sliquid Silver. To prevent a cold lube shock, try putting it in a bowl of warm water beforehand to get the lubricant to body temperature.

Encourage your spouse to share what feels good and what doesn't throughout the encounter. Don't take it personally if you're doing something they don't enjoy. Getting them off is what you're both trying to achieve. Asking straightforward questions like "is this good?" or "does this work?" will help you receive the feedback you need if your partner is too preoccupied with your moves to talk.

If your partner has a penis

Giving someone with a penis a handjob doesn't have to be limited to one hand; there are lots of entertaining ways to attempt it. You can massage the testicles via the scrotum with the second hand, interlock your fingers, or stack your hands and twist them in opposite directions. Keep in mind that the testicles are more sensitive than the penis's shaft. A small amount of stimulation produces much feeling.

Be mindful of the frenulum, which is the thin ridge that extends along the underside of the penis, and the corona, which is the ridge where the head and shaft meet. As their level of arousal increases, they modify their pressure and speed. Thrusting, heavy breathing, scrotal stiffness, pre-ejaculation, and firmness of the penis are all indications of arousal. As these indicators rise, the speed and pressure increase. Don't be afraid to hold on tight!

Apply pressure to the perineum, which is the area between the scrotum and the anus, using your middle finger and pointer as they approach orgasm. Use your finger's pad or knuckle instead of the tip to prevent scratching that sensitive area.

If your partner has a vagina

Nails that are clipped and free of sharp edges are necessary for a vaginal hand job that is comfortable. In addition to guaranteeing that there won't be any scratches, this extra grooming procedure will also eliminate any bacteria that might have been hiding beneath your nails.

Lube isn't just for the vaginal canal; it may also feel great on the vulva, which is the outside of the genitalia. Tease the outside labia with your fingertips before moving on to the inner labia and clit. To increase arousal, spend time stroking and teasing. Between your thumb and forefinger, roll the outer labia. As you move inward, adjust the pressure since the inner labia are thinner and more delicate than the outside labia.

Internal action is the next phase. Make sure your partner is prepared for that by checking in with them. Recognize that piercing with your fingers is not the same as using toys or your penis. Steer clear of "finger-banging" and make deliberate movements. Make a come hither motion with two fingers into the vaginal canal to activate the G spot. Move your forefinger and middle finger back and forth. A cluster of soft tissue and ridges should be palpable. This gland may swell as you move your fingers, limiting your range of motion. Continue.

Since many vaginal users are unable to experience an orgasm through internal stimulation, external stimulation of the clit is an alternative.

Muffing

For someone who may have a penis but does not want to use it for sexual play, muffing is a fantastic substitute for anal intercourse. Fingering someone with a penis' inguinal canal is known as muffing. The two twin pockets of the inguinal canal are behind the scrotum and above the groin. When exposed to cold or with specific tucking techniques, the testicles hide in these canals, where they are kept during adolescence and following the descent.

Look for the apertures behind and at the base by lifting the penis. Although they can be more expansive, the canal openings are around the size of a finger.

Each body has a slightly distinct angle for the canal, which lies between the belly button and the base of the spine. Although they are physically sealed, you may flip these pockets so fingers can pass through. Interacting with these canals is completely harmless as long as it doesn't hurt.

While some people find this method enjoyable, others do not. Before you start any activity, find out what your spouse thinks of muffing. Encourage them to examine their bodies first to make sure it's comfortable if they're new and receptive to the experience.

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