The 5 Different Types of Kinksters In the Scene
There are many distinct subcultures and niches within the BDSM world, and there is plenty of respect for one another among them.
The diversity of subcultures and niches within the BDSM community contributes to its distinctiveness. There's undoubtedly a place in the community for you, regardless of whether you're a masochist, sadist, or something in between. The two most commonly recognized categories of kinksters—masochists and sadists—may be the only ones unfamiliar with the subculture. Although that is worth discussing, it should be remembered that there are many more categories than just these two. Numerous additional options are available for you to consider. These are the five primary categories of kinksters currently in the scene, along with some information about them.
Sadists and Masochists
Since this is the most well-known category, I wanted to start here. But it also needs the most excellent explanation, particularly for someone entering BDSM from the "vanilla" world. Many people, primarily religious commentators, would argue that sado-masochism is a sin that the Bible forbids. Sadomasochism has long been regarded as a sexual illness in the field of psychology. Recent research, however, indicates that sadomasochists tend to be well-adjusted individuals. What precisely are masochism and sadism, and how can one determine one's position on the spectrum?
A person with sadomasochism enjoys causing pain to other people (sadomasochism) or receiving pain from others (masochism). I once knew a mistress who gave me some wise counsel that should help you decide if you fall into one of the categories. "Imagine yourself being spanked, beaten, tied up, whatever you're into," she once stated. At that time, imagine yourself as either a sadist or a masochist, and observe which one most arouses your desire. If you are equally attracted to both, you may be a "switch." The sadistic and masochistic aspects of the equation both excite this person. You will undoubtedly enjoy yourself once you discover where you are on the spectrum. You may, of course, be at the very end of this spectrum. In that situation, where do you go specifically? You might want to look into some of the niches listed below.
Hedonists
I had the chance to talk to Angie Williams, a 29-year-old switch person who has experience in the BDSM community. Williams talked to me about a variety of topics, including how she came to identify as a hedonist.
"Hedonism is not static. It can include many other things," Williams stated. "I recently realized that, as long as it was enjoyable, I was open to trying anything."
This is an excellent illustration of hedonism, and most newcomers to BDSM find this to be a valuable area of study. You'll undoubtedly find what you want if you try various things.
Fetishists
In actuality, this is the most sensationalized and frequently discussed group of people. Who hasn't watched a "Jerry Springer" show when a man or woman confesses to having a fetish for their feet or heels? To give a rough description, a fetishist is someone who is attracted to a specific item or body part. This item may be anything and adds a fascinating touch to several settings. Dominants can use the fetish in several ways and utilize it or deny it as a tool for control. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it as long as consent is given. In actuality, BDSM culture is heavily influenced by this niche. (See Dating a Fetishist: What's That All About for more information.)
Primal-Predators and Prey
Before discussing the basic dynamic, I would like to make a little clarification: by predator and prey, I do not mean unconsented sexual, physical, or emotional abuse, nor am I endorsing a predator-prey connection with a child. This is typically 21 years old in the BDSM community. You are still seen as a youngster at 18 and haven't figured out your kinks yet.)
I'm referring to a population segment that views itself as primordial. Primal people identify with a "bestial" or animalistic side of themselves. They may identify with an animal "spiritual guardian" in certain situations. At other times, people embrace their inner beast to the extent that it permeates their daily lives, failing to feel genuinely human. They might think of themselves as cats, wolves, or even cheetahs.
Primal people adopt one of two positions: prey or predator. The hunt is idealized in the former. This typically includes fear play, takedown fantasies, stalking prey (imagine an adult version of hide-and-seek), and a variety of other behaviors ranging from biting to rough sex and everything in between. Primals that consider themselves prey might enjoy being pursued, hunted, and all the different things described. Like masochists, they may occasionally use taunting as "bait" to get their predators to be "hunted" or "punished."
Rope Bunnies
As the term suggests, a rope bunny is a person who becomes aroused by being restrained. This might include anything from intricate knots and rope corsets to using a basic set of silk scarves. It turns out that Angie Williams, the young lady discussed in the section on "Hedonists," used a lot of foul language when talking about being a rope bunny, particularly regarding the topic of trust.
Williams stated, "You must have faith in the person you are with." "When you consider it, you're granting this somebody total authority over your body. You should read books and pay close attention to everything you learn.
This is one of the most technical specialties, and I couldn't agree more. You can't just tie someone up with any rope. There are various kinds of ropes and knotting techniques. Rope bunnies enjoy experimenting with different activities, including suspension and donning rope corsets.
Safety is the most essential requirement for all of the routes above. But by looking at each of the routes above, you'll be more inclined to try them. They will all assist you in discovering a more satisfying and enjoyable BDSM encounter.
