Strap-On (Fore) Play

Are you looking to begin experimenting with dildos and harnesses? An excellent starting point is a strap-on blow job.

People frequently question, "What's the point?" whenever the topic of strap-on blow jobs is brought up. However, I believe that this response is regrettable and indicative of our culture's inclination toward goals and orgasms.

Strap-on oral is a fantastic technique to begin engaging in strap-on sex. Strap-on play can appear difficult to those who are unfamiliar with it. Your muscles are just not as developed as those of a lady who has practiced thrusting for most of her life. In addition to offering a great deal of positional diversity, strap-on oral sex is also much less demanding. Before you start sucking (or blowing), keep the following points in mind.

Material Matters

Any toy you use should be constructed of materials safe for your body, such as silicone. Additionally, toys should be cleaned after each use, especially if couples share them. In addition to being a terrific way to aid with cleanliness and sanitation, condoms frequently come in flavors that go well with strap-on oral. Choose a non-lubricated condom if you want to put one in your mouth, and if you're going to, add your preferred flavored lubricant. Keep in mind that glycerin, which is present in many flavored lubes, may cause yeast infections in people who are vulnerable to them. Thus, be sure your lubricant is body-safe if it's also going in a vagina.

Everyone's Unique

There isn't a single "right way" to engage in sexual activity. Everybody has a unique body and set of tastes. Communicating with your spouse is the finest sex advice there is, yet people are always searching for that one hidden trick or method that will blow their lover away in the bedroom. You need to chat to your spouse and find out what they want to have excellent sex. Additionally, you must have the confidence to request what you desire.

Knowing which inquiries will yield more useful information than others is useful while communicating. You won't get much response if you ask "Is this OK?" or "Do you like this?" "Would this be better if I did it harder or softer?" or even "what would make this better?" would probably provide the information you need to improve the experience.

Performance Can Be Sexy

Never undervalue the mind's capacity. Just as superb porn or erotica may captivate the imagination, so too can the performative elements of sex. Consider the specifics. Consider how your spouse will perceive the way you are positioned. For instance, seeing someone on their knees can be beautiful, particularly if it goes against your customs.

One of the most frequent lessons I impart as an intimacy educator in my seminars is to slow down. People miss out on the intimacy and connection-building possibilities of many sexual and sensual actions because they are in such a hurry to get off. An excellent exercise in the performative and relational components of sexuality is blowing a strap-on, an act that is extremely unlikely to result in an orgasm. At its best, any sexual act is an experience for the entire body, but particularly for the mind. After all, the brain is the largest sex organ. Because of this, the whole performance—including your body language, eye contact, and noises—is crucial to the satisfaction of both the giver and the recipient.

Terminology Is Important

An essential component of communication is always language. Find out what terms your partner prefers to use to describe the various areas of their body. Using the incorrect body-part word is the fastest way to ruin a sensual mood. This is especially true if you're participating in gender play utilizing a strap-on. You must be mindful to respect the wearer's perception of their dildo as an integral part of their gender identity or body. Avoiding terms like "fake" and "toy" and making sure you only handle the dildo the way you would a bio-cock could be all that is required to achieve this.

Play With Power Dynamics

Although playing with power can be extremely hot, oral sex does not necessarily have to involve a power exchange element. Role-playing can be enjoyable as long as there is an agreed-upon power exchange. Try holding your partner's hair, directing their head, or instructing them. Another option is to try using filthy language in your conversations. Tell your significant other what you plan to do to them. Ask your spouse what they want or have them express how wonderful it feels.

Sensual Touch and Positioning

Take it slow when it's time to use your mouth. As with any other body part you're trying out for the first time, get to know the cock. Strike it, lick it, kiss it. For your lover, it can be as much of a tease and turn-on as a biological body part.

Consider varying your approach by using different body parts. Include your partner's fingers and hands in the conversation. While maintaining eye contact, try sucking or nibbling on their fingers. Caress their entire body, including their torso and legs. From a blow job position, you should be able to reach the majority of your partner's body with your arms.

Making complete body contact is another excellent strategy. By pressing your breasts or chest against your partner's thighs, you can squeeze your body against theirs. If the recipient is lying on their back with their legs up on your shoulders, this can work particularly effectively. This stance can also be used to reverse the typical power dynamic. You can shift your partner's body and pin them into a receiving position by using their legs as a fulcrum.

It Takes Two

Although this may all seem biased, it doesn't have to be. Both the giver and the recipient should enjoy engaging in oral sex. Enjoy the strap-on's texture and feel because the mouth is full of nerves. The mouth is a prominent erogenous zone for some people. Furthermore, a strap-on blowjob's psychological component is crucial to the stimulation of both the giver and the recipient. Seeing your significant other have fun is a great way to feel loved. This is the primary turn-on for some people throughout any sexual act.

For you and your lover, strap-on foreplay can be a sensual and strengthening experience. You'll undoubtedly have fun if you retain an open mind, communicate, concentrate on enjoyment, and maintain a playful demeanor.