Scared to Buy Your First Sex Toy? Here's What to Do

Your body can benefit significantly from sex toys. Here are some tips for overcoming your worries and finding a partner you will love.

Selecting a sex toy is similar to dating in that there are a seemingly endless number of alternatives, and it's impossible to predict what you'll receive from photographs alone. However, unlike dating, many people won't approach their friends for advice.

So, where do you begin?

First and foremost, it's critical to realize that using sex toys is acceptable! If you have one, don't you or your spouse need to be in a bad situation? After all, we are primates who use tools, and sex devices are just tools. Many people discover levels of sexual pleasure using toys they never would have imagined, and they can give us feelings that our hands cannot produce.

It sounds good. Here's how to choose the best one for you.

Step 1: Know What You Like

Knowing what sensations your body likes can help you choose the right toy. And if you've never experimented with toys before, this could be challenging. Vibrators are among the most popular toys, and you won't know if you enjoy vibration unless you try it. Therefore, it's advisable to begin with a low-cost experiment.

Penetration comes next. There are many different products available for vaginal, anal, or both. Start small because it's easy for your eyes to outstrip your body. Later on, you may always upgrade!

Step 2: Avoid Toxic Sex Toy Materials

Be sure to consider the materials and select only body-safe toys, such as those composed of non-porous, sanitizable materials like steel, glass, and silicone.

Step 3: Buy Lube. Lots of Lube.

Use lots of body-safe lubricant for the highest likelihood of success with a toy. This is crucial for penetration of any kind, but it's also frequently helpful for external stimulation. (If you're using a silicone toy, avoid using silicone lubricant since it may cause the toy to deteriorate.)

Step 3: Read Sex Toy Reviews

Shop for toys like any other significant purchase, and research internet reviews. A review mechanism is integrated into certain websites. Like movie reviews, there are a lot of websites and blogs devoted to sex toy evaluations, and you can eventually determine whose viewpoints most support your own!

Step 4: Release Your Fears

People frequently express anxiety that using sex toys would negatively impact their bodies, anything from hurting themselves to "ruining" themselves for sex with a lover.

You want to be cautious and know what you're doing to prevent physical harm. However, there shouldn't be any issues if you use a safe toy in a body-appropriate manner and with plenty of lubricant. Just pay attention to your body and quit if something hurts! There are several cultural expectations surrounding pain, particularly about penetration. However, penetration shouldn't hurt, not even the first time. Your body uses pain as a warning sign when anything is amiss. Either there isn't enough lubrication, you haven't warmed up enough, or you're not aroused enough. Avoid attempting to ignore discomfort. Instead, pause, consider what you can do differently, or try again later.

Regarding spoiling sex with a partner, this is also a myth. Indeed, it is possible to grow so accustomed to a particular form of stimulation that you must acclimate to a partner's touch again, but this is an extreme situation. Because bodies are so plastic and flexible, even if you play with sex toys all day long till you're exhausted, it won't hurt to take a day or two off.

Toy Recommendations for Beginners

What toys, then, ought to be your first choice? Here are some suggestions:

For Anal Play

Consider using a little butt plug for novice anal play. Instead of starting with something bulb-style where you have to inject the widest portion nearly instantly, start with something small that is tapered so that you may gradually work up to implantation. You can always acquire something larger later. A broad, flared base is necessary for all anal toys to prevent the object from being completely inserted into you. A trip to the emergency room may be required if a toy is lost!

A toy made specifically for prostate play can be fantastic if you have a prostate. Many of the qualities of a typical butt plug should be present here, along with a few extra form aspects that can help you stimulate your prostate. Make sure the base is broad, just like the butt plugs.

If You're Looking for a Vibrator

Start to determine whether you enjoy vibration. A straightforward and practical first option is a cheap plastic bullet-style vibe. It should be strong enough to tell you if you're headed in the right direction, if it's 6-7 inches, and use larger batteries. Wand vibrators, such as the traditional Magic Wand, are my favorite and are often appreciated by many individuals if you're prepared to spend more money.

Until you fully understand the sensations your body prefers, stay away from anything overly ostentatious, such as suction toys or rabbit-style vibes.

If You Think You Want a Dildo

It can be entertaining to try a basic dildo if you like penetration. With a vibrator or your hand, you can use it alone or in conjunction with clitoral stimulation. If anything bigger sounds intriguing, start with something smaller until you get used to the sensation of having something inside of you. Once more, remember that you should get materials that are safe for the body, such as glass and silicone. Steer clear of porous materials and jelly toys.

The G-spot is the target of another type of penetrative toy. G-spot dildos resemble regular dildos, except they feature a curved tip or form. Great if you've tried G-spot stimulation with your fingers and know you enjoy it! If not, start very slowly because this stimulation can initially be overwhelming or painful. For G-spot play to feel nice, you must be aroused.

If You Have a Penis

Masturbation sleeves are an option for those with penises. They range from simple, low-cost toys to more complex ones like the Fleshlight, providing more distinctive sensations than your hands can.

Remember to start slowly and give yourself time to unwind and explore, regardless of your chosen toy. Getting acclimated to something new can take some time. Don't worry if a toy doesn't suit you; there are many other possibilities!