Ruined Orgasm: What Is It, How to Do It, and More
You wouldn't believe how sexy a ruined orgasm can be.
You may be asking yourself, "Why would I ever ruin that?" if you have ever experienced a truly satisfying orgasm—we're talking toe-curling, pulse-pounding, spine-tingling bliss that leaves you sweating and craving for more.
As an everyday foreplay activity among kinksters, "ruining" an orgasm as part of tease and denial play is relatively standard. It adds to the alluring game of control and submission, where the "ruin" merely heightens the eventual payoff. Are you curious about how to have a ruined orgasm and what makes it so sexy? Let's get started.
What is a ruined orgasm?
You only need to glance at its name to find the definition of the wrecked orgasm. A type of BDSM play known as "ruined orgasms" occurs when the submissive party's "Big O" is deliberately cut off or diminished as a means of exerting control. When, if, and how the submissive reaches climax are usually under the dominating partner's control.
Because it mixes the excitement of power dynamics, increased sexual tension, and psychological control, people get off on having a dominant "ruin" their encounter with the tiny death. This frequently results in increased arousal and a more intense, thrilling sexual experience.
The act of destroying an orgasm produces a dull release, in contrast to edging, which aims to increase the receiver's enjoyment. The psychological intensity of play may rise as a result of the submissive person experiencing frustration.
If you want a closer look at this sultry fetish in action, botched orgasm porn is a common representation of it, especially in the feminist community. You can make ruined orgasm play your own, though, regardless of your sexual orientation or relationship arrangement.
The fundamental components of play for all forms of orgasm control should be consent and open communication. This guarantees that each partner is at ease and understands what is expected of them.
Ruined Orgasm vs. Edging vs. Forced Orgasm vs. Orgasm Denial
You may not be aware of the specific popular orgasm control activities you have attempted, but you may have experimented with orgasm play in the past. The three types of orgasm—edging, forced orgasm, and orgasm denial—are very different from ruined orgasm.
Each of these compulsions represents different sexual desires, and their execution varies slightly. Here are some characteristics of a botched orgasm.
Ruined Orgasm vs. Edging
Though they take different tactics, these two kinks provide a similar outcome: a rich, orgasmic experience enhanced by a dash of BDSM play. While edging is all about prolonging a sexual experience by repeatedly getting the bottom close to that glorious peak without letting them climax, ruined orgasms include purposefully stopping an orgasm as it reaches its height.
Consider edging as an effort to prolong and intensify pleasure, and ruined orgasm as a disturbance of it. Both scenarios intensify the play session's conclusion as the submissive enjoys the heated back-and-forth of control and anticipation.
Ruined Orgasm vs. Orgasm Denial
Refusing to give your partner that elusive moment of euphoria despite continuous play, stimulation, or penetration is known as orgasm denial kink. This strategy tends to rely on sustained desire since the submissive feels their arousal building steadily and has nowhere to release it.
The key to ruined orgasms is stopping the pleasure at the climax. Orgasm denial, on the other hand, is continuing to keep your subordinate in an erotic fugue state while delaying or preventing their release.
Ruined Orgasm vs. Forced Orgasm
Consider forced orgasm and damaged orgasm as two extremes of the orgasm control continuum, or two sides of the same coin.
Coaxing a climax out of a willing subject, frequently several times in quick succession, to drive them over their comfort zone is known as a forced orgasm. Since a particularly sadistic (or kind, depending on your point of view) dominant keeps stimulating their partner's genitalia as soon as release is achieved, it's frequently seen as a mainstay of post-orgasm play.
The bottom or submissive's control over when the orgasms end is taken away by forced orgasms, whereas wrecked orgasms take away the bottom or submissive's control over climaxing. Since the limits of maximum pleasure are challenging to define, both methods entail pushing buttons on boundaries, resulting in a perfect marriage between pleasure and discomfort.
How to Have a Ruined Orgasm
You are now prepared to destroy either your or your partner's orgasm. A treat awaits you!
Follow these guidelines to keep your bedroom escapades deliciously unpredictable and transform your enjoyable ideas into a lighthearted plot surprise.
- Initiate the build-up: Begin stimulating a partner or yourself to suit you best. As long as the Big O is in focus, this could entail penetration, fingering, or oral play.
- Monitor the situation: When you're playing alone, you'll be able to sense when that moment of pleasure is approaching. Keep an eye out for signs that your spouse may be close, such as twitching in the loins, heavy breathing, heavier moaning, and more, when you're going hot and heavy.
- Interrupt, interrupt, interrupt: Stop stimulating just as the orgasm crests. That's how easy it is.
- Let 'em down easy: Deprive your spouse of the hand, mouth, penis, or sex object that initially gave them such a high by slowing down or stopping the physical activity altogether.
- Repeat. Allow yourself or your spouse to rest and recover. Then go back to playing whenever you like.
The Bottom Line
To turn your next peak into more of a pause, mix a bit of anticipation, control, and a little bit of deviance. An exciting and unpredictable element can be added to your intimate play by transforming a climactic moment into a tantalizing tease.
As you start to think about pleasure from a different perspective, don't forget to enjoy the journey, accept the challenge, and communicate properly along the way.
