How to Finger with Flair

Some of your earliest sexual encounters can come to mind when you think of fingering. Perhaps you went from making out to under-the-clothes action to fingering in a dark basement with a fellow teen, hoping the parents wouldn't walk in. You might remember how much fun it was to sneak around and hope no one caught you. Perhaps all you're thinking is, "ouch." Initial fingering encounters are sometimes hurried, jerky, and careless. However, it shouldn't be the case.

Why not utilize your fingers throughout your life, especially in the bedroom? They're a terrific tool. Although the term "fingering" can be used to describe any genital contact, we will use it to describe digital vaginal stimulation in this article. Here are our best suggestions to improve your fingering (or your partner's).

Know your anatomy

To orgasm, 80% of women require clitoral stimulation. Therefore, before we start, it helps to know exactly what and where the clitoris is. Despite what many people think, it's not merely the area over the urethral entrance. You should be aware that the clitoris is 10 cm long and extends into the tissue on both sides of the vulva; however, we go into great depth in this article. Everybody is unique! While some people like internal stimulation, others prefer outward stimulation. Finding out what makes you or your lover orgasm can be accomplished through fingering.

Use a lubricant

The vulva does lubricate itself naturally. However, add a lubricant to the fun to make it much better. It enhances sexual pleasure, which is something we all desire, according to science. A water-based lubricant that mimics your partner's natural vaginal moisture content is what we advise. Get some additional assistance because the body's natural lubrication might fluctuate depending on stress, hormones, medicine, and hydration.

Clean those fingernails

Intimacy can be abruptly interrupted by dirty hands and lengthy fingernails. Wash your hands and get a manicure before you begin. Doing this can prevent inadvertently contaminating your spouse or transmitting undesirable microorganisms.

Take it slow

Why would you jump straight into sex when you wouldn't warm up before a marathon? The vulva requires gradual, sensuous stimulation. Indeed, research indicates that a woman may require up to 20 minutes of stimulation before experiencing an orgasm. Make delicate circles and strokes to explore the labia. Maintaining your rhythm is essential to increasing stimulation. You're headed in the right direction if your partner reacts strongly to you. Unless your spouse requests that you switch things up, keep going. Ask your spouse if they would like to use a clitoral vibrator in place of your hand if you see that it is growing tired.

Knock before entering

Ask your significant other whether they want to do that before sticking your finger inside. Begin with one and add another later. To stimulate the sensitive area at the vaginal opening, move in a circular motion inside the vagina. Use the "come here" motion and apply light to firm pressure to stimulate the so-called "g-spot," which is located two to three inches inside the vaginal wall. Keeping your fingers inside the vagina is not required. External clitoral stimulation is an alternative.

Stimulate multiple areas

You have multiple hands. Make use of both! Massage the nipples and other erogenous areas. To boost arousal and sensation, kiss them and engage in lewd conversation. To intensify the stimulation, incorporate vibration of any type or enlargement creams.

Because everyone is unique, pay attention to your partner's body language. Don't be scared to inquire about their preferences as well. Try different approaches each time and see what piques your partner's interest if you don't think fingering is your thing. Slow down and discover your groove!