External Anal Pleasure: Ways to Play With Butt Holes

Many things come to mind when the topic of butt stuff is brought up, including fingering, butt plugs, anal beads, and pegging. To pleasure your ass, though, you don't have to go deep. It's possible to keep your anal play completely external.

Here is a summary of the various methods you can play with your butthole or someone else's, including rimming, sex toys, and fingertips.

Building Up to Butt Stuff

It may take some time to get used to anal pleasure, particularly if you're still figuring out what interests you. A little exploratory work can be beneficial even before you try fingers, toys, or tongues.

Try squeezing your butt muscles the next time you engage in sexual activity with a partner or masturbate. Combining a recognizable pleasure with distinctively stimulating activity, like flexing your cheeks or repeatedly squeezing your hole, helps normalize the experience. It's a fantastic way to begin considering your butt as a typical component of sex activity.

Try touching yourself or having a partner touch you when you're ready. You can softly touch your hole, knead and pet your butt cheeks, and run your hands over and into the crack of your ass. These types of exploratory touches awaken your skin's nerves.

Go slowly. Instead of aiming for instant gratification, concentrate on the investigation. Observe how your body reacts to each tickle, stroke, and press. Experiment with varied pressures or motions. How does that feel when your fingertip rests against your hole? Is your ass cheek being smacked or squeezed by a palm?

Feeling uneasy, bashful, or "weird" is acceptable. All of this is brand-new! Just keep in mind that your body, your interests and wants, or the ways you get pleasure are all perfectly acceptable.

Keeping Clean for Anal Play

For people new to butting things, cleanliness is frequently a big worry. A lot of us have been socialized to view anal intercourse as "dirty" and embarrassing. However, body functions are not "gross," and anal sex has existed throughout human history.

Will you eventually come across some excrement? Perhaps! As they say, bad things happen. However, there are steps you may take to lessen the probability.

Use gentle, leisurely strokes from front to back and start with a new fold each time to practice good wiping methods. If you have a lot of body hair or loose stool, use wet wipes without fragrance or methylisothiazolinone. Additionally, consider experimenting with a bidet.

Don't rely on the shower spray to clean you when taking a bath. Wash the outside of your home and your crack carefully after working a light, skin-safe soap into a lather. Avoid putting soap up your butt.

An enema bulb and some lukewarm water are optional if you wish to rinse your asshole for shallow anal play. To make insertion easier, lubricate the nozzle. Gently squeeze out the water, then take the nozzle off. Release the water after holding it in for less than a minute. You might want to repeat this procedure for a more complete rinsing if you're engaging in deeper anal activity.

Safer Sex Barriers

Anal intercourse can spread STIs, just like any other type of sex that includes skin or genital touch. You can use barriers for external anal play if they are a part of your sex practice. These include finger cots, latex or nitrile gloves, and dental dams.

Suppose you're uncomfortable with direct finger or mouth contact with the anus. In that case, barriers can help make anal play less frightening while also decreasing your risk of contracting STIs or other anally transmitted infections. Place the dental dam and barrier undies over the receiver's hole and use slightly harsher licks to utilize them anally. These devices were made for oral sex. Applying lubrication can help the dam "stick" in place and feel less harsh to the receiver.

Playing With Fingers

Not all fingers are used for penetration! They are great instruments for enjoyment from without.

Furthermore, additional body parts can also be used for most of the finger play described here. You can touch and rub your knuckles, the head of your penis, and even your toes.

How do you prepare for finger play?

Before engaging in butt play, ensure sure your nails have recently been filed and cut if you typically wear them short. You might want to think about donning some latex or nitrile gloves if you wear nail extensions or maintain long nails (especially if you're leading up to penetration.) Some people insert cotton balls into their fingertips to cushion their gloved nails better.

Make sure to use lubrication whether you want to use your bare fingers or gloves. Because the anus's skin is so fragile, excessive friction can hurt, chafe, or even create nicks or tears. Long-lasting and widespread for anal play is silicone lubricant. It is not compatible with silicone sex toys, although it is compatible with condoms, latex or nitrile gloves, and dams.

How can you use your fingers for anal pleasure?

Light, consistent touches are the best way to begin because buttholes are pretty sensitive.

A few methods to consider:

Using the tip of your finger, softly move around their hole until you can feel every wrinkle in their skin. You can be stable and consistent by paying attention to details.

Lightly touch the pad of your thumb against the middle of their hole. You can rub your finger in slow, possessive circles while maintaining or varying that pressure.

Switch between vigorous rubbing and gentle tapping. Not everyone finds tapping to be pleasant in and of itself because it can be startling. The sensational shocks can help you focus on the stimulation and increase the enjoyment of subsequent massages.

Instead of using your fingertips, use an ice cube. Because fresh ice tends to adhere to the skin, use your hand's warmth to slightly melt the ice's surface first.

Sex Toys For External Anal Play

The use of sex toys enhances any sex. At the touch of a button, sex toys provide a variety of distinct stimulation options, such as revolving beads, pulsation, and vibration. Anal enjoyment is possible for many of these experiences!

How do you prepare toys for anal use?

It is crucial to keep in mind that while any external toy can be used, it must have a flared base if you plan to penetrate your ass! With its strong muscles, the anus can pull toys in too far for the hand to reach. The toy is safe if its base is wider than the insertable part.

Like fingers, toys may cause a lot of friction. Use lubrication to protect sensitive skin and enhance your enjoyment. With silicone sex toys, water-based lube is safe to use; Sliquid Sassy is a durable water-based lubrication that works well for anal contact.

After anal use, thoroughly wash your toys with a 10% bleach, 90% water solution to sterilize them. Sex toys with mechanical components, such as vibrators, should never be cooked. However, silicone dildos can be cleaned in boiling water! You can use barriers like dental dams or condoms (without silicone lubrication) to prevent the need to clean your toys.

What kinds of sex toys can be used for external anal play?

Almost any! Some sex toys, for instance, include fluttering "tongues" that may flick and lick your hole. Your cheeks must be spread for these toys to reach your butt easily. Some positions, such as lying on your back with your knees to your chest or on your knees and elbows with your ass up, naturally part your cheeks, but you can also do this by hand.

Exploring Rimming

Oral-anal intercourse, commonly referred to as rimming, is the most frequently discussed type of external anal stimulation. When a partner's lips and tongue caress your hole, it feels incredibly sexual, hot, and soft.

How do you prepare for oral-anal sex?

Taste is typically the prominent worry individuals have about rimming, followed by hygiene. There are several ways to make up for the somewhat musky flavor of a clean butt hole if it bothers you. The first—using a dental dam—is arguably the most straightforward. You also benefit from strawberry or vanilla sweetness because most dental dams are flavored. A condom can be cut for a similar purpose if you don't have a dam. Cut the tube vertically to create a rectangle after trimming the rim and tip.

The technique is key in another alternative. More spit can be used while rimming a partner. The receiver's taste is concealed mainly after a few wet licks. Sliquid's Swirl line of flavored lubricants is an option if you don't want to wait that long.

Just as crucial as getting your butt ready for rimming is getting your tongue ready. The skin is extremely sensitive, so avoid using mouthwash or eating hot food right before going down on a lover. An open wound raises the risk of STIs and other infections, so be careful not to overextend or overwork your tongue and rip the frenulum, the thin membrane of skin beneath your tongue. This can cause mild discomfort.

How can you use your mouth for oral-anal pleasure?

Your mouth is arguably the softest instrument for gratifying the many nerve endings in your butthole. To reach your partner's hole comfortably, you'll probably need to widen their cheeks. You can use a Liberator pillow (or a double-over pillow from your bed) to position your hips better if you're having trouble getting a decent angle.

The mouth and the anus are quite similar orifices: a warm canal encircled by soft, delicate flesh. It may be kissed like a mouth, frequently the most straightforward technique for both individuals to unwind into a rim job. To engage your tongue, you might moisten your lips and press them against the sensitive skin while slowly opening your mouth.

A few methods to consider:

Spread your tongue flat and lick its hole slowly and widely. You can stimulate their entire hole simultaneously by using your whole tongue.

Like you're drawing out every line, use the tip of your tongue to tease the crinkles of their skin. Keep your tongue relaxed to prevent jabbing unless your partner likes to poke. The point of your tongue may feel pokey on its own.

Fuck them with your tongue! Initially, the sphincter is typically relatively rigid. You can use your tongue to penetrate the muscles by relaxing and physically arousing them. You can lick inside with the flat of your tongue, stab them with the tip of your tongue, etc.

Since each person is unique, they will all have different tastes. However, licking more thoroughly and slowly generally translates better. Additionally, you can use your fingers, make oral sounds (such as rumbly groans), blow or sigh air, kiss, and suck. The cheeks, taint, and butt crack are all sensitive, so you don't have to stay on their hole the entire time. Changing the stimulation helps avoid overusing your tongue and keeps the receiver interested.