Anal Sex 101: a beginner's guide to safe and pleasurable anal sex

Don't know where to start and want to know how to have anal sex? You've arrived at the ideal location. And you're not alone in this; interest in anal is not only legitimate but extremely common, regardless of the reason.

One of the most common sexual fantasies people wish to experience is anal intercourse. The frequency with which the diverse Bellesa community asks us about it lets us know that it's on people's thoughts, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, or relationship status. To make anal intercourse as enjoyable as possible, the bbs are very interested in learning how to begin.

Asked and responded to! We answer all of your vast, booty-full inquiries here, from how to prepare for anal sex to how to make your backdoor exploration as fun as possible. By the conclusion, you'll have all you need to seize the moment and confidently and safely enter the fantastic world of anal sex.

How to Prepare for Anal Sex

This is a partial list of items you may want to prepare for your first experience with anal play.

I can't emphasize this enough: lubricant, lube, lube, and more lubrication.

Wipes for babies

Your preferred sex toys are thoroughly cleaned and sanitized before usage.

Disposable gloves

- Condoms

Enema or anal douche

A fresh towel

Candles, massage oils and lotions, essential oils, and anything else that creates a particular atmosphere

Lube

Except for the lubrication, everything on the list is negotiable. Since the anus does not self-lubricate as the vagina does, sexual lubricant is essential for enjoyable anal intercourse.

The finest lubricants for condoms and sex toys are silicone or water-based. Your needs will determine which option is best for you. Although silicone-based lubes tend to stay longer, silicone devices cannot be used with them. Any sex toy or condom can be used with water-based lubricants. However, it may include glycerin, which some people find allergenic.

Choose a lube without glycerin and pay attention to the ingredients if you already know you're sensitive to it.

Products to Avoid

- Oil: Although oils are excellent for external usage, they are incompatible with most condoms and gloves since they will degrade latex and polyisoprene. Therefore, if you need these items for safe sex, they're not the ideal choice.

- Vegetable products: Additionally, they can degrade your condoms and raise the risk of infection and discomfort if used internally. They will also leave stains on your linens.

- Numbing or desensitizing agents: Even though these products are healthy for the body, the anus is a delicate spot that can get damaged if not handled properly. You won't be able to determine whether you need to slow down or make adjustments to avoid getting hurt if you can't feel what's happening down there.

Anal Sex Toys

One of the finest ways to prepare for anal intercourse after your fingers are to use sex toys. Additionally, toys made specifically for anal play are always the finest for anal training. Although anal sex toys can be constructed of many different materials, we advise using silicone, glass, or metal for both body safety and ease of cleaning.

The most crucial thing is that you stay calm up there, regardless of what you're putting up your butt. Items you enter may get sucked up inside when you're enthusiastic or in the middle of an orgasm due to the way the anal sphincter muscles contract. For this reason, the base of your anal sex toys ought to be flared.

Your anal sex toy won't be drawn up into your body if the base is flared. That spares you a humiliating, possibly painful trip to the ER. It doesn't go in your butt if the base isn't flared.

Additionally, keep in mind that each person is unique. What is ideal for one individual may not be suitable for another. Don't worry if it takes trial and error to determine what shape, style, and material work best if you're just starting with booty play.

Butt plugs

Butt plugs are just what they sound like a device that fits into the anus like a plug. The plug usually tapers down from the neck toward the flared base, is thicker in the middle, and narrower at the tip. Your sphincter muscles hold The plug in place, which tightens around its neck.

Anal Training Kits

A collection of multiple butt plugs in varying sizes is called an anal training kit. These plugs, which can even be smaller than a pinky finger, are meant to help you get acclimated to the concept of having your butt.

Anal beads

Anal beads can be a single piece of material or a string that connects several beads or bulbous sections. The beaded string has a handle or ring at the end to ease withdrawal. Anal beads may be uniformly sized or may progressively enlarge over time.

Anal Vibrators and Dildos

Although some are made specifically for anal usage, any vibrator or dildo with a flared base can be used anally. When warming up, anal vibrators and vibrating butt plugs can help the sphincter muscles relax. Strap-on pegging play with a mate or hands-free solitary enjoyment is made possible by anal dildos with suction cup bases.

Prostate Toys

Prostate massage is the purpose of specific insertable anal gadgets. A prostate toy's curves are designed to facilitate access to the P-spot for increased enjoyment and stronger orgasms.

Sex Toy Cleaning and Considerations

It's crucial to thoroughly clean your sex toys both before and after each use. Your rectum and anus have different bacteria than other areas of your body. These bacteria can cause diseases when they are moved to unsuitable environments.

Anything that has entered your anus should never enter your vagina if you have both. This also applies to partners exchanging toys. The key to preventing infections is to wash and disinfect anything that has entered someone's anus before it leaves. As one alternative, you can switch the condom between partners and portions.

Certain toys, such as those with porous materials like TPE, cannot be cleaned. You must use a different condom for every user and orifice if you do share them. For more thorough instructions on how to clean and sanitize various types of sex toys, see our sex toy care guide.

How to Clean Before Anal Sex

Have a bowel movement. 

Try to use the restroom before beginning for comfort and hygiene. However, don't worry if you can't. The rectum, not the anal canal, is where faeces are kept. Any excrement that hasn't moved far enough down your colon to be noticeable is why you don't feel the need to go. Things will be reasonably clean if you're healthy and consistent.

Have a bath or shower. 

Wash the area surrounding your genitalia and anus with a clean cloth and mild, gentle soap. To clear the hallway and start your warm-up, you can also press a cleaned-up finger into your ass. Because the tissue inside the anal orifice is sensitive, gentleness is crucial once more. When finished, could you give it a thorough rinse?

Use an enema or anal douche 

A device called an enema or anal douche is used to flush out everything in the rectum and anal canal by inserting water into the anus. An enema can be used before the fun, but it is not required for simple anal play. Make sure you douche a few hours before your date if you choose to do so. Before you begin, you should give yourself a chance to ensure everything is clear.

Grooming

Nails

Everyone should cut their fingernails to avoid small tears to the sensitive anal lining. If you have any scrapes or scratches on your hands or fingers, you can use disposable gloves to help prevent pain and infection.

In addition to being beneficial for your health and safety, gloves can provide for a smooth cleanup and a pleasant glide once you're all lubricated.

Hair

Everybody's anus is covered in hair. You can shave, trim, wax, or let it run wild. Other than doing whatever makes you feel sexy, there are no limits to hair grooming here.

Because you'll be able to relax more into the fun if you feel more at ease in your body before you start.

How to Train Yourself for Anal Sex

You're prepared to begin your training now that you're tidy and have everything you need in your room. As with any workout, a proper warm-up is essential for injury prevention and improved performance.

Remember that even experts must complete this process, which might take longer than you anticipate. Because they prepare off-scene, porn actors make it appear effortless. They can even begin their training days early to prepare for the shoot.

The experience will be more pleasurable and pain-free if you follow these tips for butt training before you slide into any penetration activity, regardless of your skill level.

Find a comfortable position.

Each role is unique for everyone. Getting on all fours, squatting, lying on your side, or reclining on your back... Do whatever relaxes your body and is most comfortable for you.

Warm up without penetration first.

Once more, you already know what suits you best. You might begin with your favourite ethical porn, audio erotica, massage, hand or favourite vibrator stimulation around the genitalia, or all of the above. You want to prepare your mind and body for playing.

You can ask your spouse to start loving up on your butt and rubbing their way between your legs if you're playing with them. Oral sex and rimming are also excellent during this period.

Lube up

Start with a finger and some lubrication before moving on to smaller items. To get used to these novel sensations, tease around the anus with a finger that has been highly lubricated. To familiarize yourself with how the sphincter muscles respond to touch, press the pad of your finger against the entrance.

A crucial first step is to become accustomed to touching and being touched in this area. The whole experience will be more enjoyable if you are at ease, welcoming pleasure to this area of your body.

Take your time

Breathe around the sensation as you insert one finger into the first knuckle and pause there. You can incorporate incredibly soft movements, like side-to-side or slightly up and down, but if it makes you uncomfortable, take another moment to breathe until you're used to this new presence. This is a significant initial step, and it might be the only thing you receive when you try inserting something for the first time.

On your first attempt, don't expect to go from zero to dildo. Adjustment takes longer for some people than for others. Compared to your previous session, you might take longer this time. Today, find that butthole wherever it is.

Small goals for enormous pleasure wins.

Sex educator Tristan Taormino advises setting modest objectives, such as inserting one finger and causing an orgasm with it still in place for you or your PartnerPartner, in her Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. It's a minor accomplishment but a major training victory to demonstrate to your body that you can feel this kind of pleasure during anal. Anal's mental aspect is equally as significant as its physical aspect.

As you ease, experiment with adding another finger, working up to a tiny toy, and other finger movements (such as twisting, slowly and gently in and out, or a "come hither" motion towards G-spot or P-spot). You'll feel when you're ready to get bigger and see how your anus eases into taking more.

Pull out slowly

After you're finished, carefully remove everything that is within. In addition to keeping things clean and preventing injuries, some people find the loss of feeling at the end of a session to be a little overpowering.

Anal Penetration and Partner Play

You might feel prepared for something larger, like a dildo or your Partner'sPartner's cock (whether it be synthetic or flesh), after warming up with your fingers or little toys.

Whether with a companion or not, everything about your warm-up is the same. However, when we include someone else, we also need to have an open line of communication and respect for each other's privates.

Communication 

It's crucial to go over the intricacies in advance, mainly if this is your first time doing anal with your PartnerPartner. Discuss your preferences, what you feel comfortable doing, what you would prefer not to do just now, and how you will communicate when the time comes. You might even wish to set a password for added peace of mind.

This mental preparation will make everyone more comfortable, avoiding unpleasant surprises and increasing the potential enjoyment for the provider and the recipient.

The receiving PartnerPartner is in ControlControl.

Check-in with each minor adjustment and let the receiving partner decide the pace until their butt has relaxed. Remember that since the receiver makes the decisions, they are in the driver's seat.

The provider should inquire about how things are going during your playtime, and the recipient should feel free to provide candid feedback, even if it involves pausing. Here, there is no reward for persevering through the suffering. Inform your spouse immediately if something seems wrong, then make the necessary adjustments. Silently struggling through it will only result in physical suffering and potential harm.

Best Positions for Anal Sex

The ideal position, however, ultimately allows the receiver to feel the most at ease and calm while still working best for you and your partner. The following are some common positions for initiating anal intercourse:

Missionary: Making eye contact during crucial communication is much facilitated by being in person.

Dog Style: The giver sees the situation more clearly from the rear-entry perspective. If you position yourself in front of a mirror, you might still be able to make eye contact.

The receiver is on top and straddling their giving partner in a rider (also known as a cowgirl) position. The receiver now has more control control over the rhythm and tempo of penetration.

Spooning: This technique involves both people reclining on their sides, which can help both parties relax and lessen their weight-bearing. Additionally, it can foster a stronger feeling of closeness and safety.

The giver can use the lavishly lubricated tip of the penis or dildo to tease around their Partner'sPartner's anus, press the head to the hole, and then slowly enter once the proper starting position has been established. Although it may seem contradictory, the recipient can assist with the insertion by softly pushing out with their sphincter muscles as the cock is forced into them.

While the receiver adjusts to this new adjustment, keep the head within. Remember to check in with one another to see how things are going. Don't rush the thrust, givers! When they're ready for more of you, your PartnerPartner will communicate with you.

Pain-Free Anal Sex

The worry that anal intercourse will cause pain is one of the main concerns. I, therefore, cannot emphasize this enough. It should never hurt to have anal sex.

As you grow to know these new feelings, you may experience some discomfort. Adjust as necessary by adding more lubrication, slowing down, maintaining breathing, trying something smaller, or returning to your warm-up techniques.

However, stop what you're doing if it hurts. Pain is a sign that you're moving too quickly.

Withdrawal and Aftercare

Withdraw slowly at all times. It can be very emotional for some people to feel lost or empty after feeling so full. Following any brief cleanup that may be required, the giving spouse should focus on the recipient's urgent emotional and physical needs. A small amount of aftercare is usually beneficial.

Safety and Risks

STI Transmission and Prevention

Anal play carries a certain amount of risk because it involves contact with biological fluids. The anus's lining is susceptible to injury, which increases the likelihood that an infection may spread there. Barriers such as dental dams, sanitary gloves, and condoms can be used to stop and lessen the spread of diseases.

Blood

Pain is already a sign to halt. The same guidelines are applicable if blood is seen. It could be the result of haemorrhoid irritation, a small tear in the anal lining that will go away on its own with rest, or an anal fissure. This can be avoided by slowing down and using extra lubrication the following time. However, consult your physician if you experience bleeding whenever you play.

There are always some risks associated with sex of any form. Anal sex can be a completely safe and healthy sexual activity as long as you follow the required safety precautions, pay attention to your body's signals while you're playing, use a lot of lubricants, and warm up properly.