5 Reasons Men Over 50 Love Blow Jobs

Another way to increase intimacy in a relationship with an older man is to have oral Sex with him.

A few weeks ago, my 73-year-old uncle came to visit. He was a little taken aback by my new career as a sex writer because we hadn't seen each other in a long time. I could see what was going through his mind and knew that something a little "raw" was about to happen. He leans over and asks me, "Do you teach women to swallow?" after he has moved out of his wife's line of sight.

A chuckle and a tactful sidestep of the problem were enough to return the conversation to a level that was comfortable. I would have taken his question more seriously and spoken to him about Sex, blow jobs, and what women would and wouldn't do for a loved one if we had been by ourselves.

I detested blow jobs in my married life. I resisted swallowing. It's a hand job, so I was more of an "I'll take you most of the way there and then" kind of wife. Additionally, I believe that I was among the numerous women of my age who disliked oral Sex.

As attitudes evolve, so do times, and the blow job today offers a fantastic chance for genuine closeness as well as a great, flexible way to keep up a passionate sex life as we get older.

Not a single man I've met hasn't fallen head over heels for the prospect of a blow job.

So why is this specific sex act so appealing to men? Here are some essential explanations.

It's Taboo

Many elderly men yearn for the "forbidden" joys that their hesitant wives or lovers, who were not wholly initiated in the pleasures of giving and receiving, denied them. It's so delightful to come across a woman who genuinely enjoys blowing people off.

It's a Great Alternative to Intercourse

Penetrative Sex can cause anxiety in men with erectile dysfunction. What would happen if it didn't work at "that" time? What happens if the goal of Sex has always been penetration? A well-done BJ provides some of the same pleasures: a tight, warm place, the feeling of in and out, and a great deal of intimacy. When used in conjunction with hands, it can create a climax that rivals sexual contact. Or, to increase your level of arousal, incorporate it into your repertory of sexual acts. (See Erectile Dysfunction Drugs: Not the Ultimate Fix for more information on ED.)

It's the Ultimate Sexy Act

The blow job is considered the pinnacle of attractive acts by men. They are able to observe! Wearing bright red lipstick, dressing sensuously, and adding pleasure with her hands or a sex toy are all ways for a woman to enhance this visual turn-on. The recipient will find the act even more enticing if she finds it enjoyable.

It Involves Power Play

Even when we're not intentionally playing power, power is nevertheless there in our sexual practices. Does he always take the lead? Does he like to be in command and at the top? Are you reticent? Each of those elements gives sex acts a distinct flavour. The male partner controls the thrusting and speed in BJ, which some perceive as submissive behaviour for women. I consider it to be a more feminine gesture of dominance. As he sits back and observes, push him down in the chair and continue to unzip or undress. For a man of any age, the fact that you are in command and purposefully making him feel good is a tremendous turn-on.

It's an Act of Giving

The act of oral Sex is based on one person's desire to make another person happy. It's a means of expressing passion, love, or affection. Additionally, women are demonstrating that connection most intimately when they start oral Sex with a man because they want to.

Another way to increase intimacy in a relationship with an older man is to have oral Sex with him. As we age and our bodies change, there are advantages for both men and women in embracing sexual activities to complement or replace sexual contact. When difficulties arise from aches and pains, erectile dysfunction, or vaginal dryness, expanding the repertoire is an excellent method to guarantee an active sex life. (Read more in Sex at 60: A Personal Reflection about Aging and Sex.)

And if he wants to reciprocate, well, ladies are just as happy to have oral Sex as men are. Oral Sex is quite attractive since clitoral stimulation is often the primary method used by women to achieve orgasm. "She Comes First," a superb book on the technique of oral Sex, was written by novelist and sex therapist Ian Kerner. The book includes thorough directions and suggestions on how to play, tease, and pleasure a lady orally, along with exquisitely drawn pictures of female genitalia. This book is suitable for both novice and seasoned oral sex enthusiasts. I believe that all guys should be obliged to read it! "Passionista, The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man" is the male equivalent. Both novels are excellent additions to any library.

Returning to my Uncle E.'s query...How can I teach swallowing to a woman? I would advise her to keep in mind that she is giving her partner a blow job because she cares about him and wants to make him happy. I would advise her that while swallowing is not necessary, it can be pleasant. It's not a huge deal, and a woman can prevent the ejaculation from going right down her throat if she can prepare for it. She can also covertly spit it into a tissue that has been placed in a strategic location close by.

You like what you're doing when you approach Sex—any Sex—with a desire to please and joy in your partner's body. His arousal arouses you. Because it makes the experience more pleasurable for you as well, you want to do the things he appreciates. If you're only engaging in what I refer to as "charity sex," neither of you will enjoy it.

As he prepares to climax, relish these times and be open to experiencing him in the most intimate ways possible. I can assure you that it will be a memorable occasion for him.